Yes, Master (entry 32): "Q&A's"

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I haven't done any Q&A's for a while now, and there were some interesting ones building up, so let's get to it.....

Q: Master Aiden, I've had fantasies of being submissive while being dressed in ladies' lingerie, high heels, and makeup. If I were to schedule some time with you, would you be willing to do a forced fem session with me?

A: I don't get session proposals like this one very often. From what I understand, this is a scenario that is requested towards Dominatrixes a lot--to have a woman "turn" a man (in a submissive mode) into a feminine alter ego or, what he considers to be, a more ladylike version of himself. Although this fantasy raises questions concerning political correctness, gender identity, submission/dominance, etc. it can't be ignored since the transformation of the individual into a fabricated set role is basically the foundation stone of what the BDSM dynamic is. The inquirer, as you may notice, is not very specific as to what sort of scene gets played out in this session.

Is he (soon to be she) simply looking for an opportunity to parade around in gown and heels within a leather-flavored setting or is he/she looking to be a damsel in distress who gets tied up, roughed up, and punished for some yet-to-be-decided indiscretion? That's up to the submissive and this is something that, obviously, we would discuss before the session takes place. While raw, personal fantasies are very rarely politically correct, I believe that these types of scenarios should be approached with sensitivity and an extra emphasis on understanding and trust.

Gender bending and transformations are fairly typical for S&M scenes but not so typical that I am readily prepared to make the magic happen at the drop of a hat. For this type of session, the client would have to bring his own clothing, wig, and makeup to the location. Although I am pretty good at illustration, I don't really know how sharp my makeup skills would be. Hopefully the client has some previous experience applying his own glamor face because, if I were to be the one slapping on the colors, the submissive may end up looking more like a John Waters character than a Lana Turner. But maybe we can make that part of the session? For some reason, I'm really good at creating zombie/gore monsters so if you want to do, like, a submissive zombie scene or whatever, you know who to email.
Overall, I'm up for it. Glamor girls or zombies. Or glam zombies.

Q: Dear Master Aiden, do you do candle play?
A: As I mentioned in my last "Yes, Master" article, yes, I do incorporate candle play into some sessions. Candle play requires heightened focus (as you can probably imagine) since it involves fire, skin, and melted wax. Using hot wax or heat application during a scene tends to divide people; submissives either love it or hate it. Rarely do you get a someone who feels that it's "fine" or they're simply okay with candle play. Fire play is something entirely different from candle play or wax play. Fire play involves lighting 50% to 70% rubbing alcohol or other flammable substances on or very close to the skin. Although this is something that I think would be really interesting to get into, my clients wouldn't be into it. I've seen it done during a couple of BDSM shows--it's very dangerous and tends to be for extreme lifestyler types. Branding and scarification are also on my "NO" list. Call me a softie but I have no interest in setting permanent marks on my clients bodies or altering them through torture. Have I had requests for that? You bet. But here's my persepective: that brand mark that says "Property of Master Aiden" on someone's left buttcheek might be really cool for them in 2011 but they may feel very differently about it in 2018, if you know what I mean.

Q: Would you wear DayGlo for me during a session and rig up the dungeon with black lights?

A: Although, this roller disco/Ke$ha-themed scenario seems "interesting", please be aware that you would have to purchase all the blacklights and fluorescent clothes (in addition to paying your regular tribute) since my Dom garb is all black. I don't have any of these things in my regular stock. This scene sounds like a mess but, hey, at least it's unique.

Q: Where do you get your masks, Master Aiden?

A: Here are my favorite mask-makers (Google them): Frights.org, Maxx Empire, and Fantasy Guilde. I've also found some great stuff at leather markets (IML, etc.) and BDSM shoppes. One of my favorite masks I actually got at a Renaissance festival a couple of years ago. I rarely ever wear masks during sessions but they're perfect for photo shoots.