excerpt from Homo Art edited by Gilles Neret, Taschen Books:
".....Plutarch mentioned the favorites of Demetrius Poliocretes, one of whose naval triumphs is possibly commemorated by the Winged Victory of Samothrace:
'One day Demetrius was sick. His father went to see him, and met a beautiful young man who was on his way out. Demetrius reassured his father, saying 'the fever has left me now'. 'I know,' said his father, 'he was leaving when I arrived.'"
Yeah! And there's some sharp gay humor for you from almost 2,000 years ago (nothing is new, folks), courtesy of Plutarch. I love it, love everything about it. Ha 😉
Enjoy the rest of this Happy Pride month, everybody!
Because Chicago has to always be extra in everything that it does, we have 2 very special Pride weekends in June: one for various community-related events (which was last weekend) and then there's the big Pride Parade which is it's own thing (and that's this weekend). Chicago's Pride schedule is HERE
It goes without saying that there will be some fetish presence throughout Pride and I know that Touche leather bar (their website is HERE) has some plans over the next few days for those of you looking for a kinkier twist on this weekend's festivities (I definitely approve of that).
Friday, June 23, 2017
We're working on finishing up the newest pictures over the next few days; it's a lot more time-consuming than I had anticipated even though the shot concepts are simple. Sometimes--for whatever reason--shoots that seem like they'd be difficult are the quickest and easiest to finish but then, on the opposite front, the ones that should be the easiest to complete end up with all kinds of bells, whistles, and scheduling challenges that you didn't see coming. Oh well, that's how it goes.
One of my loyal behind-the-scenes photo friends (welcome back to Chicago, slave T!) is doing them for me which makes my part of the task a lot easier. He has a good stylistic eye, and makes suggestions, which I appreciate.
So, of course, we're doing certain shots at some place called Devil's Cave and also in a supposedly haunted ballroom. Because we're corny, yes, that's how we do things. It's constant Addams Family nonsense all the fucking time. ha
Tuesday, June 20, 2017
For those fetish folk living towards the eastern portion of the USA (and whoever is willing to venture towards that coast), they've got an entire week-long(!!!) BDSM event coming up this week--starting today, actually--chockfull of activities, events, and socializing.
The information for Maryland's Dark Odyssey Fusion is right HERE
Registration is still open.
Wednesday, June 14, 2017
Tuesday, June 13, 2017
Touko Laaksonen, aka Tom of Finland, has gotten a biopic from his native country.
Now, from this filmmaker's point-of-view (the director is Dome Karukoski), we get to see how Laaksonen recreated himself to become the brilliant illustrator that we're familiar with.
"Tom of Finland" has gotten some great reviews in the festivals circuit and has been already screened throughout Europe. A month or so ago, rights to North American release were secured by a distributor which means that we should be able to watch this film in the US, hopefully, at some point later this year or, perhaps, early next year. I definitely look forward to seeing it! All that we know right now is that it was recently premiered in the US at the Tribeca Film Festival.
Keep up to date on this film via the "Tom of Finland" movie's official website: http://www.tof.fi/en
Monday, June 12, 2017
I know that many of you think that the fantasy scenes that you dream up for yourself are super-weird but chances are......that they're kind of common. That's not a judgement, just a statement.
Perhaps you thought that you were the Only One who has very specific, favorite situational kinks but you may be surprised to learn that the scenarios that you wish would happen do happen on a not-entirely-infrequent basis.....
Here are the Top 7 most-requested BDSM themes/concepts/whatever that I've done throughout the years:
1.) basic Master and slave
Typical, standard Dungeon Master and slave doing classic S&M leather scenes. That's the usual request. Nothing too fancy or avant-garde.
2.) domestic bliss
The submissive is in my home and I order them around and have them perform tasks/chores while I torment them.
3.) intruder alert!
I'm either a home-invader, or some sort of kidnapper kind of guy, who abducts the submissive, binds them (always, of course), and abuses them until I decide to free them.
4.) it's official
For this type of scene, I'm either some kind of government agent, or from a shadowy/powerful organization, and I have been assigned to punish the submissive for a misdeed that he or she has committed. I fulfill the punishments that I've been ordered to carry out on them by an unnamed and unknown secret commander. So, in this type of scenario, I've noticed that I'm not the main Master but a sort of underling-Master appointed by the unseen, all-powerful, Authority. But it's fine. This sounds complicated but it's surprising how many different people have requested this type of scenario or something very similar to it. At least it's creative!
5.) Doctor's appointment
I'm the Doctor and the slave is the patient. As you can guess, medical play. Pretty straightforward. I wear a lab coat and I get to be pleasant, precise, cruel, and condescending.
6.) training day
The submissive comes to me as someone who needs physical training and I'm their athletic trainer putting them through different ordeals. Sounds tame but it's always one of the raunchiest, kinkiest kinds of BDSM scenarios for whatever reason. Surprisingly nasty but, hey, this scenario is what many slaves typically request so be careful what you ask for.
7.) the angry Boyfriend
The submissive is a slutty cheater who has been unfaithful and I pretend to be their vengeful boyfriend who will not put up with it! I bust them out (usually this involves me discovering a salacious text on their phone; no, it's not brilliantly original but it does the job), call them all kinds of names, give them exactly what they deserve (bondage, spanking, and so on), and expect total obedience from that point forward. Tough love, I guess.
So, yes, those are the most typical requests. There have been sessions involving teachers, priests, aliens, evil princes, step-dads, and college bullies but those specific requests aren't too frequent (not for me, at least). 1-7 are the "normal" ones.
Sunday, June 11, 2017
Next weekend--for those of you in that region (and beyond, too)--will be the SouthEast LeatherFest taking place in Atlanta, Georgia from June 15th through the 18th.
Vendors, contests, workshops, play parties, the works.
A big leather event with everything you want.
The website (tickets, itinerary, and so on) for SouthEast LeatherFest is HERE
As we all know, superheroes are freaks.
Batman, Superman, Black Panther, Spider-Man, Storm, Nightwing, and countless others all fly around saving the world(s) in their ultra-fancy fetishwear. I think that that's part of the appeal of superheroes; they're all so aesthetically pleasing. Looking through some comic strips and graphic novels feels, sometimes, like you're peeking into various kinky fantasy worlds. And, no, it's not just my imagination. If you don't believe me, go to your local comic book shop, buy a few books, and you'll see exactly what I'm talking about. Exaggeration isn't necessary. The images are often shocking and surprisingly homoerotic.
Wonder Woman--who's definitely having a moment right now--is a convergence of pop culture with BDSM subculture.
If you haven't read about her creator, William Moulton Marston, he's worth looking into. Interesting guy--a genius--with a strange and highly unconventional lifestyle. No saint, for sure, but a fascinating character. He was pretty straightforward regarding his fantasies. Marston liked bondage--any way, any kind, any character Dominant, any character submissive--and lots of it!
Here are a few examples of the kinds of situations that Wonder Woman and her buddies found themselves in:
When I saw that movie recently, I noticed a couple of bondage-y moments but I was hoping that there would be more subversive stuff in there. Maybe they'll throw some more captive scenarios in the sequel but who knows. I think that they should but you could probably guess that already.
Saturday, June 10, 2017
It would be difficult to Top (see what I did there?) this A+ display of fetishwear within a work of mainstream entertainment. Blatant.
It's safe to say that this poster will spark all kinds of curiosity for plenty of people. Wowza Are we sure that this isn't some kind of advertisement for an upcoming leather event? ha Awesome!
Friday, June 9, 2017
Balaclavas are useful.
In the picture above, the young gentleman in bondage is wearing a balaclava which is not the same thing as baklava.
This is baklava:
It's a delicious pastry, found in parts of the Middle East and the Mediterranean regions, created with phyllo dough, honey, pistachios, almonds, etc. As you can imagine, baklavas and balaclavas may not pair well together (unless your balaclava has a mouth opening which some of them do).
Balaclavas are a legitimate substitute, during S&M play, for the leather hood or gimp mask. They're super-cheap (typically between $5-$10), can be easily ordered online, are comfortable, breathable, washable, can accommodatingly stretch for various head sizes, and they create the facial anonymity/privacy desired by many kinksters when doing fetish photography or attending dungeon parties. Something to take into consideration for many of you BDSMer's who are building an inventory of naughty gear while trying to keep things relatively affordable.
You can buy them in any color of the rainbow--if you really want a hot pink balaclava, you can easily find one--and, of course, they come in black too.
Tuesday, June 6, 2017
A workshop focusing on--without a doubt--one of the most complicated aspects of BDSM; a great subject for learning and lecture.
An event at The Pleasure Chest on Lincoln Avenue in Chicago:
Hot, Healthy Humiliation with Dr. Liz Powell
Wednesday, 06-28-16, 8pm-10pm
Adults Only (needless to say), No Registration, Free
More information about upcoming events at The Pleasure Chest (including full info about "Hot, Healthy Humiliation") is right HERE
Thursday, June 1, 2017
There will be some Bonus Shots pictures being posted up on here towards the middle of the month.
There was a ton of stuff planned for the Spring 2017 Gallery; we got to do most of it but there was some material that we ran out of time for so, yeah, we're getting to it now. Survival/Wishcraft pt. II will be posted in a couple of weeks.
Tuesday, May 23, 2017
What are some sure-thing tips that you can count on when it comes to finding yourself in dungeon surroundings (or at leather gatherings or at fetish parties such as IML kinds of things)?
From my extensive experience, here are a few things to consider:
*Dress to Impress
If you can somehow gather the courage to dress in fetishwear, we'd all appreciate it. Definitely.
What is the purpose of going to leather events? To see people in provocative gear, to be inspired, to engage in scenes (perhaps), to be in a potential-filled mixture of human chemistry. That's the entire point.
Most of the people at leather gatherings will be dressed in street-safe yet event-appropriate attire meaning dark clothing, jeans, t-shirts, and bits of fetish nodding here and there (leather vests, cuffs, boots, hats, belts). But it's really wonderful when people are in head-to-toe (or hardly anything!) leather, rubber, or lycra. To those people--We Salute You! The fully geared-up folks are the reasons why everyone is here. That's the truth. Let's not kid ourselves. However, we must acknowledge, not everyone feels comfortable displaying themselves to that degree and that's okay too. But at least attempt to show some solidarity. Don't be boring. At least wear a cuff and some boots; something to show that you care, something interesting.
*Dumb Conversation Starters
What if you find yourself in a situation where you're surrounded by tons of attractive people but you don't know hardly any of them and everyone is already talking to someone that they know (or hitting on a new friend), diddling around with their iPhones, or otherwise preoccupied in some way?
Think of a lame excuse to talk to them. I'm serious.
Make a comment on some gear that they have on; ask where they got it. Pretend that you may recognize them from some other location. Ask them if you can buy them a drink. Figure something out. Be creative. You don't have to think of something brilliant; just think of something.
Depending on how your conversation goes, you'll be able to gage whether or not they're your type (or if you're their type.....it's a harsh world), if exchanging numbers is the next best step, and if, maybe, there could be any steps beyond that. Again, like the clothing policy, try. Don't be a wimp. If you're interested in someone, figure out a reason to chatter with them. If they shut you down, oh well, at least you tried. And then--you guessed it--you'll need to try again with someone else. Life isn't for the faint of heart.
Meeting new lovers is great (obviously). Making new friends, even on a casual or platonic level, is also extremely valuable. Don't forget that. And, as we all know, things can take turns towards fascinating new directions and in unexpected ways. Keep an open mind and unlocked lines of communication.
*iPhone balancing act
I know that your iPhone is the most exciting thing on the planet (of course it is.....) but be sure to look up every once in a while.
The people in the same room as you are every bit as interesting as the idealized avatars on your phone. They're already there, they actually exist--there they are!, and they're within arm's reach.
I'm not going to be preachy (yeah, actually, I probably will). If you need a drink or two to loosen up, that's fine but common. If you're thoroughly drunk or high and trying to hook up with people, it may work, however, you're going to be a sloppy mess. But, if everyone gets off then I guess that that's nice.
Don't do elaborate BDSM scenes if you're wasted. Don't overestimate your pain threshold, or numb your senses, and end up getting seriously hurt. Don't think that your wits are sharp enough to conduct yourself as the Dom and wind up truly hurting someone else. Wait until you're both sober before doing your flogging scene, bondage scene, fisting scene (God forbid), or whatever the hell else that you plan on doing.
*Join The Club
The leather scene is a wide tent and "fetish" can mean many things. Many, many things.
If you're curious about water sports, for example, join a gathering or club dedicated to it. If you're into puppy play, there are definitely leather pup clubs that you can look into. Adult babies, "Littles", there's a group for that as well. Bootblacking interests? You're not alone!
At some of the bigger leather events, there are actually time slots set aside for specific crowds so be sure to look at the schedule to see what's what. There are spanking parties, guys-only parties, girls-only parties, parties aimed directly at kinksters of color, leathermen parties, rubber fetish parties, and so on and so on.
If you're at some scene or some party or some leather event, and you don't feel comfortable, or you feel out-of-place, this is very normal. Especially for people who are new to fetish.
But, please, allow yourself 5 or 10 minutes to adjust to a new environment and new stimuli. Don't give up on yourself and don't run away. You'll feel comfortable soon. If you don't want to play, then just politely watch and sink into the atmosphere a little bit. Same thing with being part of a new scene. Give yourself 5 or 10 minutes. If you can do that, then you're fine. You survived and you did it.
You know how when you start working out and it's miserable for the first couple of minutes but then, after those first few minutes are through, you're magically just fine all of a sudden? Sometimes it can be the same for new BDSM scenarios. Keep that in mind.
Unless otherwise noted, most BDSM events these days are open to all adults of all genders and leanings, even the ones originally created to cater to niche demographics. There are certain exceptions and rules in some cases but those are always noted prominently on the event website.
So, basically, if a leather or fetish event is happening, you likely have no excuse when it comes to satisfying your curiosity.
Friday, May 19, 2017
Sure, it's nice that you think that my blog has some interesting, experienced perspectives (of course!) but there are many other blogs--better ones, academic ones--out there for you to enjoy as well.
One of the blogs that I like visiting--plenty of fascinating articles--is The Science of BDSM website. Check it out, grab a coffee, and give yourself a bit of time to explore some of their research.
Tuesday, May 16, 2017
Today, people, if we can't go there physically, at least we can visit through the magic of the internet:
The Tomb of the Whipping! aka The Tomb of the Flogging! (you get the idea) which is located near Tarquinia, Italy within the Monterozzi necropolis.
Basically, it's a mural made in 490 B.C. that features a 3-way between two men and a woman, involving dick-sucking, rod-whipping, and some bare-ass booty spankin'.
In a tomb. Because that's the image that the dead wanted around them by for all of eternity which, to put it mildly, is an example of truly hardcore BDSM enthusiasm.
The Etruscans were viewed as "immoral" by the Greeks and the Romans which means that the Etruscans really enjoyed having a good time since the Greeks and Romans were hardly goody-two-shoes themselves. Some Etruscan murals feature heavy drinking, group orgies, and hot, sweaty gay sex with no apologies.
If--ever for a moment--we imagine that S&M, erotic bondage, etc. is a modern phenomena, just remember that all of these interests are ancient.
Kinky spankings? We've been at it for thousands of years.
Bondage fantasies? There are plenty of Renaissance-era poems where the writers go on and on about being captive by their lovers in shackles, chains, ropes, etc., etc.
Fetish items? People have been openly perving over wearables since clothing was invented.
All the kinds of daydreams that you enjoy are nothing new. Not even close.
The Tomb of the Whipping is a perfect example. Someone with money went as far as commissioning a final resting place filled with beautifully painted murals featuring fetish scenes. Their friends, family, tomb-builders, and the artists may have rolled their eyes a little bit but, hey, whatever made this Etruscan grandpa (or was it a grandma.....?.....) happy, they just went along with it meaning it must not have been considered all that scandalous. So Uncle Timaeus liked a bit of mural porn? So what?
The Etruscans considered erotic imagery to be life-affirming (indeed) and thought that that kind of stuff scared off demons and averted the evil eye.
Tuesday, May 9, 2017
For years I've gotten this question:
"Will you ever write a book about your experiences as a professional Dom?"
and the answer is always the same which is:
This blog is my book. It's free and you're already reading it.
Part of the reason that I keep this blog is because I know that there are a lot of curious BDSMer's in their 20's/early 30's (as well as their preceding generations) who read this mess (who probably should be reading this mess....) in order to get my objective, honest perspectives on kink and S&M--for better or for worse!--because those written experiences of mine could be useful when it comes to how they approach their own kinky endeavors. Or not. Some people just read this because it's weird or provocative or.....simply fun. And that's fine too, damn it! Fine by me.
There won't be a book.
This is it, folks.
You don't have to send for it in the mail, you don't have to order it on Amazon, you don't have to awkwardly ask for it from the nice clerk at Barnes and Noble (lucky you!).
See? I'm not so cruel after all.
Sunday, May 7, 2017
I wish that we had an S&M-themed restaurant in Chicago like they do in Beijing:
I'm not sure about all of the aesthetic choices that they made for their place but, hey, points for creativity. This is one way to spice up an evening out!