For a minute, I was thinking that I should make my blog/communications more minimal......more flesh-images-eroticism. More dirty talk and whatnot and, truthfully, there would be nothing wrong with that considering what my job is. However.....
What is it with so much of Western culture when it comes to how we process the erotic sides of ourselves and others versus the emotional and intellectual (and spiritual) sides of ourselves and others?
Why the divorce? Why the barrier?
It bothers me. I don't think it's good.
As if the erotic side of our lives is, somehow, less important than those other sides.....as though it's the ghettoized side of life. As if it should be walled off with a secret-password-only entry admission needed to get through to that part of ourselves. Nasty, dirty, to be pushed away. A hidden lair. An underground chamber. The bad side of town within your own life; within all our lives.
That's a shame, really. Stupid and counter-progressive. And, also, when it comes down to it, not seriously reflecting on the erotic nature of human experience is pretty dangerous. A lot of bad stuff--truly bad stuff--happens when people are repressed or ignorant about their own desires (whether they're aware of them or if those fantasies are subconscious).
Am I saying that we should all discuss our whips-and-chains inventory in front of grandma during Christmas dinner? No, obviously. There's a time and place for everything.
But, what I am saying, is that the layer of muck that our culture covers over the erotic sides of our lives is unnecessary, immature, and.....disappointing. For some people it can be devastating (which is a very serious discussion that we'll get to some other time; I've known people like that).
As if the erotic part of our lives isn't incredibly important. Of course it is.
We have--in no particular order--Work/Career, Emotion, Food, Money, Spirituality (whatever that may be), Sleep, Family, Social Interaction, Pleasure, Goals/Projects/Creation, Sexuality, and so on. Those are all important gears in the clock, even if they're on different sides of the machine. Not addressing some of them, or attempting to remove any of them, would be unwise. I think that we can all agree on that.
So why all the angst when it comes to how adults address/discuss eroticism with other adults?
As for prudes? Never, ever take them seriously. They're always either lying or they're nuts or both. Count on it.
All that I can do--on my blog and on my website--is reflect on my own kinky adventures and make observations about what I've experienced with others. I could just visually present concepts of eroticism--with not much else--but, nah, I think that we can do more than that. Kink and fetish deserve discussion, opinion, and observation. And so, as long as I continue working as a professional BDSM Master (which I'm going to be for a while still) I'll do exactly that.