Friday, January 13, 2017

Frequently Asked Questions

Q) What will my first experience be like with a professional BDSM Master?  I'm new to this.

A)  If you're new to BDSM, your session with me will take you through the S&M basics in a way that will be fun, thorough, and enlightening. 

Heavy pain/abuse/humiliation is for serious and deeply experienced players, not for newbies.  I'm aware of that.  If you get to the point where that's the type of session you enjoy and can handle, that's great!  We'll deal with that when you get to that point (as some of you have).  In the meantime, however, you need to be introduced to the basic elements of what BDSM is and what it can be which means different things to everyone.  Some people always stay on the lighter side of BDSM by focusing on fetish, comfortable bondage, and roleplay.  There's nothing wrong with that and plenty of my slaves have that type of temperament.  Harsh spanking, etc. is not for everyone; sometimes it's better to take a more subdued approach.

Before your first session begins, you and I will sit down and you can let me know what your interests are, what you're curious about, what turns you off, your limits, etc.  If you're willing, you could always look through the questionnaire and hone in on what your points of interest might be.  That's always a good start.

First-time sessions are relatively breezy and talked-through.  They are not stressful or scary.  I want you to have a good, enjoyable, kinky experience trying out BDSM, not a frightening one.  There's a major difference between what you see in bondage videos and movies versus how real-life professional BDSM sessions are orchestrated.  It's my job to be the realist in handling your fantasies.  I know what I'm doing and how to take care of people who are in the process of exploring their submissive sides.

Q)  Do I go to you or can you come to me?

A)  Either one.  That's your choice.  Things to consider when deciding on Incall or Outcall, are detailed on the Incalls vs. Outcalls page.  You can come to my dungeon in Chicago or I can come to your home or lodging in Chicago or the Metro Chicago area.  Anyplace within a 90-minute radius of the city is fine by me.

Q)  When are you available?

A)  I'm available to session 7 days a week.  Specific times vary by the week so make sure that you schedule your session at least 2 days in advance so that we can figure out which specific time and date (and location) will be determined for our session.  Just let me know which date, time, and location you have in mind and we'll figure it out from there.  Good scheduling is always the most important thing in making a BDSM session happen.

Q)  Will I get hurt?

A)  No.  And I'm used to doing sessions that will not leave marks either.  I'm a realist when conducting BDSM sessions, not an idealist.  I'm fully aware that my clients have other lives to get to once they exit the dungeon.

Some of my slaves want heavy abuse, marks, welts, red butt cheeks, etc. which I'm more than happy to dish out to some of them.

Most submissives, on the other hand, don't want that.  People have spouses to change clothing in front of, pool parties to attend, and so on.  If taking a lighter approach to S&M suits your lifestyle better, that's not a problem.  In truth, that's a typical concern.  We'll discuss what would be appropriate for you before your session begins.

Q)  Will there be other people there?

A)  No.  It will just be you and I.  I don't have my clients intermixing with each other or awkwardly bumping into each other.  That's just not a good thing.

If you want to get a third, or fourth, individual involved in our session that's fine but you'll be the one responsible for finding them, making sure that they're vetted for BDSM, that they have a general understanding of BDSM protocol, and that they're going to show up on time.  I do not recruit other Masters, Mistresses, or submissives into my sessions.  The "more the merrier" approach is fine when you're at a party but not necessarily in the dungeon.  Speaking from experience.

Q)  Will you be mean to me?

A)  The Cruel Dom archetype is a form of roleplay.  My roleplays begin and end during the session only, in the dungeon only, not during pre-session discussions and certainly not in phone calls, text messaging, or email communications.  I save the roleplays for real face-time only.  In most areas of my life, I'm an extremely polite guy.  I'm always straightforward and commanding but I don't act "mean" to my submissives unless it's during a scene that we both agreed on.  If a scene feels too intense, we can always modify the scene taking place.  I have no intention of ever truly hurting anyone or making anyone upset.  That's not the point.  Your session with me will take you on a journey through an imagined scenario.  My cruelty towards you is just pretend.  Some people are into that and some people aren't.  If you want me to be especially easy on you during a session, feel free to let me know in advance.  I'm used to dealing with extremely tolerant submissives who require heavy abuse but I'm also used to dealing with very sensitive individuals too.  I value all my clients equally and plan their sessions on a case-by-case basis, customized to their suit their interests and personalities.  Everyone is different and I love that.

Q)  How much does a BDSM session with you cost?

A)  Tributes are according to time spent.  $150 for one hour, $250 for 2 hours, $300 for 3 hours.

Q)  What should I wear?

A)  My slaves wear a full spectrum of preferred gear.  Some of them wear head-to-toe leather, others wear rubber masks, lycra jockstraps, cotton thongs, boxers, underoos, lingerie, you name it.  There's no reason to think elaborately unless that's what floats your boat.  Fetish can mean many, many things.  When in doubt, just wear something that turns you on and that you'll feel comfortable in.  Or wear nothing.  That's always an option.

As for me, I realized a long time ago that what I wear during BDSM sessions is basically a dark version of sportswear.  I have to be able to move easily and comfortably through long scenes. 

Because my slaves come in all shapes and sizes, I do not provide wearables for my clients unless we're referring to gimp masks and hoods.  I do have those that I can put you in.  As for your jockstrap or thong, you have to take care of that yourself.

Q)  Can I meet you first before an actual BDSM session?

A)  Yes.  You could always stop by my dungeon or meet me somewhere for coffee.  Meetings are $100 per hour.

Q)  What is the protocol for addressing you?

A)  Master or Sir is fine.

Thursday, January 12, 2017

Power at Leather Archives

Chicago's Leather Archives and Museum will be hosting a talk that explores co-dependency and the differences between healthy and unhealthy dynamics in power exchange relationships.  The discussion--moderated by LORE (Leathermen of Recovery) and CPX (Chicago Power Exchange Roundtable)--will be taking place from 3pm-5pm on Saturday, 01-21-17.  Attendance is technically free but a small donation is appreciated.

Visit the Leather Archives website HERE which will include current exhibit info, address, objectives, etc.

I'm a huge proponent of balanced, constructive, sustainable approaches to fetish lifestyle--as well the Leather Archives itself, of course--and I'm glad that the Leather Archives goes out of their way to present regular events including this kind of challenging subject matter.  Awesome establishment.
Chicago is certainly lucky to have the Archives in our city.

Tuesday, January 10, 2017

Photography Services

Not only am I a professional BDSM Master, I offer photography services too.

If you're in the Chicago area and need photos done for your own purposes (for your dating profiles, kink ads, etc.), let me know and I'll take pictures for you.

I live in Chicago (in the northwest part of the city) and have my own dungeon space.  We can do shots of you here at my place with all that gear (floggers, paddles, sling, shackles, and so on) or I can come to you and bring gear with me.  I enjoy being behind the camera (more than being in front of it to be honest with you) and it's a fun side-gig that I've been doing off and on for 10 years now.

My services are available to men, women, trans, and non-binary individuals.  You must be at least 21 years old.

What can you expect when I take your picture?

* images that are edgy, timeless, interesting, and sophisticated

* no unfortunate/awkward poses; I'll make you look your best and we'll work together to get the images that will present you in the ways that you're aiming for

* absolute privacy

* individuals, couples, and groups are fine by me

* relaxed, fun, easy, light-hearted creative environments (I realize that some of the photos here may look intense/dark but the process of shooting them is extremely chill, professional, safe, comfortable, and focused on final outcome)

* fast shoots with quick, reliable turn-around's

* an objective and completely non-judgmental guy behind the camera (if you want lightly kinky, that's fine....if you need grittier images, than lets do that too.....not a problem); freaking me out is extremely difficult as you can probably guess

* your pictures don't have to be leather, chains, and whips if you don't want to go that route; sexy vanilla, "normal", and boudoir portraits/concepts are typical requests as well

* location shoots available

* very affordable, fair services

* bare-bones tech (just a few lights in most cases, the camera, the tripod, some good editing software; nothing fancy or fussy) with great results

* beautiful final photos

I'm easy to work with and (because of my Domming job) I'm used to being around kinky men and women of all ages, shapes, sizes, identities, and leanings.

All of the main images that you see on my blog and website are pictures that I've art-directed and/or shot myself.  I have a certain style that I lean towards so--just to be straightforward with you--chances are that your photographs will end up having a similar tone/vibe/aesthetic regarding what you see here on my blog.  If that works for you, then let's schedule your photo shoot and create some good, strong images that you can use for your purposes.

When I'm the subject--when I'm in front of the camera--I typically direct the photographers that I work with so that they know exactly what I'm aiming for and we shoot with the camera that I own (because I'm used to the settings, the file types, etc.).  I like my camera, I've had it for a long time, and I'm happy with the way it creates images.  When one of my photographer collaborators isn't available to take shots, I'll just get out the ol' tripod, set the camera timer, and do the photos of myself by myself (sometimes I have a slave joining me to create the photo story and then, at other times, I'm the only one in the photos).  So, by this point, after doing BDSM photos for my own website and blog for many years, I've gotten pretty good at creating kinky photos.

Plenty of people need images for their Fetlife profiles, Tinder accounts, Scruff profiles, Grindr, adult services provider advertisements, etc., and so on.  Too often you see a lot of awkward selfies, party/vacation pics with blurred faces, mirror shots, etc. but, if you want to go with something that's significantly better while still affordable and easily doable, contact me and, together, you and I will create some good content for your personal/private endeavors.

Because every project is completely different--and every subject/client is different--I don't have a set rate that I work with.  Just let me know what you need, and what your vision is, and we'll figure out a compensation that is fair for everyone.

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Sunday, January 8, 2017

It's About Damn Time

It's one of those things that you suddenly realize that you assumed was there--was obvious or that there was no need for it--but then you thought......"Yeah.  I need that.  Because of course.  Clearly."

I'll finally be adding a Frequently Asked Questions page to this blog.  I'll do it this week (probably Thursday).

It's only taken 8 years.

I'm so used to answering certain reoccurring questions that maybe I assumed everyone knew them at this point and were just clarifying(?) but I think a FAQ's page would be useful to the new slaves and those thinking about it.

You submissives who already come to me will probably be bored by it because it will be a bunch of stuff that you're already familiar with--you may just want to skip it--but maybe the newbies will find that page helpful?  Hopefully.

And I'm also going to be adding a page on here that talks a bit about photography services that I've been providing to some Chicago kinksters for years at this point which maybe other people will find useful too (aside from the gay/bi/bdsm/fetish crowd that I typically work with).  It's a good service and I'm used to being in weird places and crazy situations (surprise, surprise.....) so, if anyone has experience with that sort of thing, it's me.  But I forget to mention it because, apparently, I can be flakey sometimes.

Did you know that I've been doing BDSM/fetish photography from time to time for other people too (me not in them; just behind the camera) since about 2009 or so?  No?  Well, that's because I probably forgot to mention it because I assumed that everyone knew that already (which, of course, they didn't).  Yikes.  So, yeah, most of the pics on this blog feature me in them (duh) but I also enjoy just being behind the scenes too on certain projects as well--ones that I do for other folks--and simply taking the snaps.  Actually, I prefer to be behind the camera but, for the sake of my Domming job, I obviously have to have photos taken of me in order to stay updated and all of that (of course, that goes without saying).

Regardless, 2017 is going to be the year of extreme clarity and not assuming that everyone knows everything automatically.

On a completely unrelated note, I just ordered a new whip that I'll be using for another photo shoot next month.  It was inexpensive but the design was cool so I got it thinking "Meh, it will be something different for some pics but I probably won't use it after that and I'll just give it to one of my friends".  I didn't think that it would be right for actual sessions (I only like using great, functional gear for S&M sessions, not necessarily aesthetically pleasing stuff).  But, ooh buddy, I was pleasantly surprised.  This new whip that I got was FedExed to the dungeon already--I got it yesterday--and this thing is badass, heavy-duty, quality stuff.  I love it.  I thought that I was getting something cheesy and dumb (but interesting-looking!) for a photo shoot but it's actually pretty amazing.  I've never ordered something online and been blown away by the real thing being better than I thought it would be (let's face it, it's usually the opposite.....) so this is a new--and happy--experience.  It's black, white, and tan leather and it's kind of scary-looking (and it stings like a bitch because, yes, I tried it out on myself because I wanted to know if the hit-factor was nice or if it was bullshit and, low and behold, it's a great piece).  You'll see it in next month's gallery of new photos which are going to be awesome, gritty, raw, harsh.  I'm looking forward to getting those done.

Thursday, January 5, 2017

Blue with Envy

It's as cold as Jack Frost's dicicle over here in Chitown but at least they'll be having a hot time in Washington, D.C. soon during their annual Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend.

Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend is a leather competition, vendor fair, big kink event taking place during the weekend of January 13th through the 15th, 2017.

Learn more about it HERE

Those of you who live in that area of the US, I'm assuming are going to this (as well as a bunch of people from plenty of places flying over there).  Our Chicago IML isn't for a few months so, yeah, I'm a bit jealous.

Tuesday, January 3, 2017

a few fetish thoughts

A couple of quick things:

*I'm glad that you guys--and girls (I'm not forgetting about the ladies)--enjoyed the last set of pics.  They were a lot of fun to do and they came out pretty ridiculous which I think may have been for the best.  A little bit of levity is a beautiful thing sometimes, right?  Absofuckinglutely.

*The black zentai outfit that I wore in the Holidays 2016 Gallery was a really interesting experience.  The look was cool with the lights and all of that but I'm not used to zentai and I don't think that I would wear that kind of thing during an actual session.  For the pics, I removed the head section of the outfit because, obviously, I have to see what I'm doing in order to Dominate people and I didn't like having my hands covered because that makes me feel disconnected from the slave and the gear that I'm using.  I've mentioned on this blog before that I like having leather or rubber gloves on in photographs--because it's a great aesthetic and it's intense-looking--but, in real life, during sessions, I don't like having gloves on.  I like to have my hands free and open so that I feel fully connected to the submissive, so that I can feel all the buttons on certain pieces of gear, and so on, you get the idea.  Everybody has their quirks, do's, dont's, things that they prefer, things that bug them, etc.  Anyway, I like to be a bit more free and open than zentai and gloves allow but, for picture purposes, yes, zentai and gloves can be interesting.  I noticed that that outfit made my head look bigger than it is and my body smaller than it is which I thought was......a bit strange.  One of the things about trying new things--whether it's leather gear or rubber or zentai or whatever the hell--is that the effect and the experience can be different than what you expect.  But it's good to try new things, of course!

*I've loved using my leather bondage straps a lot lately during sessions--thank you, RubberSlingW--and I don't know why it took me a while to fully appreciate using big, wide, leather straps to confine people but they can be really perfect (basically, they're like huge, long belts but meant for bondage).  Ropes, specialty bondage tape, chains, locks, shackles, etc. are all great, standard go-to's but those leather straps are awesome!  Perfect for me because, as my slaves know, I like to move things along and get to the point when it comes to bondage (I don't like for things to take all day) so those straps definitely suit my personality.  So, yes, people, try out leather straps and belts on your submissives to bind them not only to whip them.  Very useful, works like a charm.  And, from what I can tell, it's a comfortable mode of bondage which matters a lot.

*Speaking of straps, have you ever noticed that sometimes, with certain pieces, it seems like leather shackles and confines for wrists and ankles are either one notch too tight or one notch too loose?  That always pisses me off.  What I do--and what I suggest to you folks who sometimes find themselves with a similar inconvenience--is to drill extra holes (additional notches ) between the notches that were originally created on your leather gear.  Just do it carefully with a smaller-sized drill bit.  It's easy and it takes 5 seconds.  Just have a wood block underneath the leather while you're drilling (I use an old wooden knife holder that I got for like a buck at a thrift store as a wood under-block; it's very useful, you can easily store it in a cabinet, and then bust it out when altering leather pieces).  So, yes, additional notches can make all the difference during BDSM sessions.  Obviously creating additional notches in leather pieces is fine but don't try that with rubber bondage gear or you'll ruin it.

*Working on some new articles for this blog, ordering gear for the next photo shoot (in February), and doing S&M sessions with my clients as usual.  I'm actually really glad that the holidays are over and now we can move on to the new stuff for '17.

Sunday, January 1, 2017

Happy New Year!

We need to refocus on our priorities in the 365 ahead.  So in honor of looking back to move forward, here's an ancient sundial that looks like a UFO.  I like it.

At any rate, folks, let's all have a great 2017!


Master Aiden

Saturday, December 31, 2016

Holidays Gallery 2016

Dreaming In Real Time

"Dreams come through stone walls, light up dark rooms, or darken light ones, and their persons make their exits and their entrances as they please and laugh at locksmiths."

-- J. Sheridan Le Fanu

I'm the Master in these photos and the submissives are Chgowestslave and ScrappleChingon. (thanks, guys!)