Q) What will my first experience be like with a professional BDSM Master? I'm new to this.
A) If you're new to BDSM, your session with me will take you through the S&M basics in a way that will be fun, thorough, and enlightening.
Heavy pain/abuse/humiliation is for serious and deeply experienced players, not for newbies. I'm aware of that. If you get to the point where that's the type of session you enjoy and can handle, that's great! We'll deal with that when you get to that point (as some of you have). In the meantime, however, you need to be introduced to the basic elements of what BDSM is and what it can be which means different things to everyone. Some people always stay on the lighter side of BDSM by focusing on fetish, comfortable bondage, and roleplay. There's nothing wrong with that and plenty of my slaves have that type of temperament. Harsh spanking, etc. is not for everyone; sometimes it's better to take a more subdued approach.
Before your first session begins, you and I will sit down and you can let me know what your interests are, what you're curious about, what turns you off, your limits, etc. If you're willing, you could always look through the questionnaire and hone in on what your points of interest might be. That's always a good start.
First-time sessions are relatively breezy and talked-through. They are not stressful or scary. I want you to have a good, enjoyable, kinky experience trying out BDSM, not a frightening one. There's a major difference between what you see in bondage videos and movies versus how real-life professional BDSM sessions are orchestrated. It's my job to be the realist in handling your fantasies. I know what I'm doing and how to take care of people who are in the process of exploring their submissive sides.
Q) Do I go to you or can you come to me?
A) Either one. That's your choice. Things to consider when deciding on Incall or Outcall, are detailed on the Incalls vs. Outcalls page. You can come to my dungeon in Chicago or I can come to your home or lodging in Chicago or the Metro Chicago area. Anyplace within a 90-minute radius of the city is fine by me.
Q) When are you available?
A) I'm available to session 7 days a week. Specific times vary by the week so make sure that you schedule your session at least 2 days in advance so that we can figure out which specific time and date (and location) will be determined for our session. Just let me know which date, time, and location you have in mind and we'll figure it out from there. Good scheduling is always the most important thing in making a BDSM session happen.
Q) Will I get hurt?
A) No. And I'm used to doing sessions that will not leave marks either. I'm a realist when conducting BDSM sessions, not an idealist. I'm fully aware that my clients have other lives to get to once they exit the dungeon.
Some of my slaves want heavy abuse, marks, welts, red butt cheeks, etc. which I'm more than happy to dish out to some of them.
Most submissives, on the other hand, don't want that. People have spouses to change clothing in front of, pool parties to attend, and so on. If taking a lighter approach to S&M suits your lifestyle better, that's not a problem. In truth, that's a typical concern. We'll discuss what would be appropriate for you before your session begins.
Q) Will there be other people there?
A) No. It will just be you and I. I don't have my clients intermixing with each other or awkwardly bumping into each other. That's just not a good thing.
If you want to get a third, or fourth, individual involved in our session that's fine but you'll be the one responsible for finding them, making sure that they're vetted for BDSM, that they have a general understanding of BDSM protocol, and that they're going to show up on time. I do not recruit other Masters, Mistresses, or submissives into my sessions. The "more the merrier" approach is fine when you're at a party but not necessarily in the dungeon. Speaking from experience.
Q) Will you be mean to me?
A) The Cruel Dom archetype is a form of roleplay. My roleplays begin and end during the session only, in the dungeon only, not during pre-session discussions and certainly not in phone calls, text messaging, or email communications. I save the roleplays for real face-time only. In most areas of my life, I'm an extremely polite guy. I'm always straightforward and commanding but I don't act "mean" to my submissives unless it's during a scene that we both agreed on. If a scene feels too intense, we can always modify the scene taking place. I have no intention of ever truly hurting anyone or making anyone upset. That's not the point. Your session with me will take you on a journey through an imagined scenario. My cruelty towards you is just pretend. Some people are into that and some people aren't. If you want me to be especially easy on you during a session, feel free to let me know in advance. I'm used to dealing with extremely tolerant submissives who require heavy abuse but I'm also used to dealing with very sensitive individuals too. I value all my clients equally and plan their sessions on a case-by-case basis, customized to their suit their interests and personalities. Everyone is different and I love that.
Q) How much does a BDSM session with you cost?
A) Tributes are according to time spent. $150 for one hour, $250 for 2 hours, $300 for 3 hours.
Q) What should I wear?
A) My slaves wear a full spectrum of preferred gear. Some of them wear head-to-toe leather, others wear rubber masks, lycra jockstraps, cotton thongs, boxers, underoos, lingerie, you name it. There's no reason to think elaborately unless that's what floats your boat. Fetish can mean many, many things. When in doubt, just wear something that turns you on and that you'll feel comfortable in. Or wear nothing. That's always an option.
As for me, I realized a long time ago that what I wear during BDSM sessions is basically a dark version of sportswear. I have to be able to move easily and comfortably through long scenes.
Because my slaves come in all shapes and sizes, I do not provide wearables for my clients unless we're referring to gimp masks and hoods. I do have those that I can put you in. As for your jockstrap or thong, you have to take care of that yourself.
Q) Can I meet you first before an actual BDSM session?
A) Yes. You could always stop by my dungeon or meet me somewhere for coffee. Meetings are $100 per hour.
Q) What is the protocol for addressing you?
A) Master or Sir is fine.