Tuesday, March 21, 2017

Wild Imaginations


There are workshops for BDSM writers coming up in Washington and in New York for those of you who write S&M erotic fiction.

The website for the BDSM Writers Convention is HERE

There will be author lectures, bondage demos, awards, and mixers.  I think that this is a good concept since I know that there are plenty of you out there (including some of you who read this blog; some of you have shared your work with me which I really enjoyed reading--thank you) who either do S&M writing already or are at least considering doing it.  I say go for it!

Friday, March 17, 2017

Minty Fresh

This whole "Beauty and the Beast" hullaballoo about LeFou being gay is just bandwagoning.  All those magicland motherfuckers wish that they had half the golden twinkle that Uncle O'Grimacey has:


Maybe it isn't my place to speculate, but Grimace's bachelor uncle had an obvious "artistic temperament" (not to mention Ronald and Grimace and whatever their situation is.....) way before the other cartoon sidekicks!  When is the Huffington Post going to write a think piece about his fuzzy green ass?  There's no justice.

Well, lads and lasses, keep chasing that rainbow and have a very Happy St. Patrick's Day!

Thursday, March 16, 2017

Vocabulary Lesson


The word of the day is:  Disinhibition

According to a recent study, BDSM allows a certain degree of disinhibition for individuals acting as submissive.  Their typical concerns for following social conventions were put on hold while they engage in behaviors, privately, that they wouldn't perform in any other setting.

The study also noted that people experiencing these temporary spells of disinhibition were almost always those who felt powerful in their day-to-day lives meaning that they typically held (at least) a degree of social status and/or professional success. 

The study didn't imply that these people were escaping their powerful daily duties/statuses (as is common theory) but, instead, noted that the participants felt enough confidence in their lives that they allowed themselves to take on "submissive" roles in playacting scenarios because they felt that their power was, in no genuine way, truly threatened.  Basically, they felt like they had capital to burn.

Very interesting......but not very surprising.  Overall, the study concluded that it takes power and confidence in order to pretend to be powerless. 

All of this is stuff that I've been saying for years!

Tuesday, March 7, 2017

from far away


Whenever you order anything online, you can never be 100% sure of what you're getting. 

You can be 98% confident!  Or even 99% sure that what you'll get will be exactly what you were intending to get but, then again, there's that other 1 or 2% chance that what you receive may be a little bit different than what you thought you'd be getting and that can change everything......

I've had good experiences with ordering stuff online and bad experiences too.  As we all have, right?  Most likely.

Luckily, everything that I ordered for the upcoming spring photo shoot is great.  I ordered a lot of different fetish gear (both for me and for the model who be the submissive on the next shoot) and I thought to myself:  "Chances are that one or two of these somethings are going to be sent over all fucked up, not sent at all (it happens), will be the wrong size, and/or will look like a janky version of the picture that I saw online."

Okay, so, this time one little item didn't come at all.  It wasn't expensive and it wasn't a big deal so I just ordered something similar from another distributor.  Done.  Problem taken care of.

Fetishwear is a tricky thing.  Sometimes you buy something in your size and, no matter what you do, it just doesn't look right.  Either the cut of it sucks or your body--no matter how in-shape you are--just doesn't mesh well with that particular design.  Sometimes one person will look great in one type of fetishwear and then you pass it over to another person and, for whatever reason, it looks off.  Luckily, for this shoot, all the pieces will look right.  I've received all the stuff from all over the place (everything came in earlier than projected which is a small miracle unto itself), I've looked at it, tried my wear on, and it's all good.  Thankfully!

But you're going to have to wait until April to see what I'm talking about.  Ha

My submissives on the other hand--the ones who session with me--will more than likely get a sneak preview of the new gear.

Thursday, March 2, 2017

Inquiries?


I'm going to do a Q&A post this month so if you have any questions (quirky or otherwise), go ahead and email 'em to me.

master-aiden@hotmail.com

Tuesday, February 28, 2017

Leather Weather



Chicago's Leather 64 Ten will be having its own fetish-centric weekend coming up within the next few days beginning Thursday, March 2nd.

It all takes place in the Rogers Park area of town, around Jackhammer and the Leather Archives Museum (naturally).

The weekend calendar--with times, locations, etc.--is right HERE

Thursday, February 23, 2017

soon!(ish)


Things are busy right now; we'll start working on the Spring 2017 Gallery pictures--in bits and pieces--starting early next month.

It's going to be a long, extensive set of pics (the concepts/themes are really strong with some great participants and gear; I'm sure that you'll all truly enjoy them) so, really, they won't be posted on here until late/mid April because I ordered a bunch of unusual pieces for this project and all that stuff has to be shipped to me in Chicago (mostly American stuff but some from Asia, some from Europe, etc....); most of it will be used as is and some of it I have to adjust.  There are a bunch of locations involved too, etc., etc.

So, yeah, it's going to take a while (longer than usual) to get this project over and done with.  But it'll be awesome!  In the meantime, though, of course I'll be doing BDSM sessions with my clients as usual.

I would love to give you the full gist on what the Spring 2017 Gallery will be like but I'll try to save at least little bit of it for surprise (hopefully).  Regardless, I'll post some preview images here and there as the project moves along.

Tuesday, February 21, 2017

Yes, Master (entry 146): Pathways

Launched in 2009 as a regular column for Washington D.C.'s The New Gay website, "Yes, Master" is a series of essays, Q&A's, and rants by Chicago pro Dom, Master Aiden.  The new entries of "Yes, Master" continue here on MasterAiden.blogspot.com.  Feel free to write in, ask questions, etc.:  Master-Aiden@hotmail.com
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This is something that affects BDSM/fetish/bondage newbies--those who are new to the leather world--especially.....

When we first start out in the fetish world, we look towards the internet (in the good ol' days, it was books, magazines, and erotic films; nowadays it's definitely the internet) for guidance.  The how-to's.  The do's and don'ts.  What's cool and what isn't.  What's correct, etiquette-wise, and what's incorrect.

You'll come across many, many opinions and plenty of voices.  And, yep, that includes me and whatever it is that I happen to be yammering away about on this blog.  Sometimes it's one subject and then it's on to something completely different.

These are just opinions and recommendations based on my own life experiences--for whatever they're worth--as a result of my inner logic, the S&M adventures that I've been through, and my specific personality.  There is no monolith in BDSM.  There is no one who can claim that they're the ultimate authority on fetish do's and don'ts.  Of course not.


Everyone is different.  Everyone has their own individual tastes and range of experiences both good and bad.

Whatever you read on here is a reflection of my thoughts.  And whatever you read on other peoples' BDSM websites/blogs is simply the result of their lives and what they believe.  To younger kinksters, especially, I want to make this very clear:

What fetish is to YOU is your own choice.  You have to create your own definitions, identity, rules, and code of conduct that you stand firmly for that your partner(s) in play will have to agree to while the two (or more!) of you are engaged in fetish scening.  And it's entirely possibly (probable, actually) that you and your play partner will have different rules and standards than what you've had with others and what your partner has had between themselves and some other partners.

So, really, the rules change per partnership. 

What is kosher, allowed, appropriate, acceptable, and unacceptable morphs depending on the unique combination of people involved.  This is why it's necessary to discuss things thoroughly with your play partner before you get down to it.


I realize that the fetish world can seem overwhelming, mesmerizing even, when you first get into it.  Don't be mesmerized.  Don't be intimidated.  No matter what anyone says, there is no specific etiquette that you need to be versed in before you begin playing.  I've been in situations where I've heard people say "This is how it's done.  This is the right way to do it.  I thought that everyone knew that."

I'm sure that most of you would agree with me in saying that we don't want to shape our own experiences, necessarily, around how things were done at one specific place with one specific group of people at one specific time period.

Things change, folks.  Subcultures are constantly reshaping themselves based on year, faction, and location.  Don't assume anything.

So if anyone gives you attitude (and you will encounter attitude at some point), don't buy into it; you've done nothing wrong by not being automatically aware of whatever minutiae their particular dungeon rules consist of.  You know how every household--whether it was your own family or your friends' families--has it's own rules/do's/don'ts?

Same thing with BDSM.

That being said, typically the Dominant lays the foundation of rules which will receive add-on's and compromises via the submissive.  Usually.

No matter what your range of experience is, you have absolutely as much authority over how and what your BDSM scenes are, and how you define them, as your partner in play.  If you're not sure what to do, just go with common sense.  If you fuck something up with someone, get over it and move the scene forward.


Personally speaking, it's better--when beginning to scene with a partner new to you--to start off light and easy on someone (if you find yourself in the Domming role) and let the submissive communicate to you (whether verbally or through body signals) if they can handle harsher punishment.  Like with cooking and painting, it's easier to add more than to take away.  Some people may disagree with me on that but, hey, to each their own.

Aside from that, you'll figure things out for yourself.  Which is the way that it should be.  One of my main concerns is that some people who are new to BDSM are under the impression that there is some complex bible of rules that they're expected to know and follow (which is nonsense) and then they get overwhelmed to the point where they no longer want to engage in real-life BDSM because it feels daunting.  I'd much rather have people feel empowered with a "learn as you go along" approach and actually Do Things For Real instead of just leaving things to the "experts" and watching from the sidelines.  I want you guys and girls to really try out BDSM, feel comfortable, and not be overly anxious when it comes to lack of experience.  I know that a lot of people don't get to enjoy BDSM until later in life (once they've reached a level of confidence and relaxation towards their personal fetishes) but it would be great if more people got to enjoy the leather world earlier in their adulthoods.  Life is short.  Enjoy yourself with care, truthfulness, and gusto.  It's beneficial to be inspired and informed by other people but, when it comes down to it, you have to create your own pathway for how fetish will fit into your world.

Just be yourself, communicate honestly and effectively, and learn by doing.

Thursday, February 16, 2017

not a minute too soon.....


If there's a city out there that needs to blow off some steam--via bondage, fetish, kink, and so on--it's these people......

Diverse kink/BDSM group, Dark Odyssey, will be hosting a big event in Washington D.C. called Winter Fire which will include lectures, workshops, play parties, vendors' market, and all the other nice perks that substantial leather weekends contain.  It's for men, women, trans, hetero, bi, gay, pan, you get it.

I hope that Dark Odessey's Winter Fire 2017 gets a great turnout from all over the world (I'm sure that they will) but I really hope that all adults in Washington D.C. go to this.  It would be good for them.  Plus, there are plenty of individuals there who deserve some long-overdue spankings.  I think that's something that we can all agree on as a solid, truthful, nonpartisan statement, yes?  Yes.

Who knows?  Maybe while they're doing their shibari arrangements, they can come up with some policy breakthroughs while they're at it?  One can hope.

Winter Fire takes place this upcoming weekend:  Friday, February 17th through Monday, February 20th.  Passes are still available and the link to this event is right HERE.

Tuesday, February 14, 2017

Rose Red

Have a safe, fangtastic, stupendous, t-rrriffic, and very Happy Valentine's Day!

xo,

Master Aiden

Sunday, February 12, 2017

Lupe troop


Way back in the days of ancient Rome, you'd be anxiously getting ready for this time of the year but it had nothing to do with buying cards and boxes of chocolates.  The Romans, being hardcore, wouldn't waste their time on that kind of namby-pamby nonsense.  No, no, certainly not.

Why?

In the middle of February, they celebrated the Lupercalia Festival which honored the founders of Rome, human twin bros Romulus and Remus.  The "Lupe" in Lupercalia means "wolf" as in the she-wolf that raised the boys (yes, like how Mowgli was saved in "The Jungle Book") before they created the city that all roads led to.


The Lupercalia Festival started in a more spiritual mode--including chanting, rituals, dog sacrifices, goat sacrifices, blood smearing, and other spooky stuff--before turning into an all-out kink extravaganza during which priests (and whatever other guys decided to join in) stripped down bare-ass naked (or loin-clothed), created floggers from the viscera of the sacrificed goats (very creative, resourceful), and ran around town whipping people for good luck.  Party time!


The women, especially, tried to pretend like they didn't want to be whipped but those coy ladies actually wanted to be hit by the drunk Doms (which was more absurd than painful--that was the point) so that the blessed goat floggers would make them more fertile.  As with many S&M environments, the bottoms sorta/kinda pretended that they didn't want to be walloped but we all know better.......

Revelry, laughter, and craziness ensued during this old-school fertility faire that eventually changed into Valentine's Day.


Lupercalia Festival was one of the Romans' favorite times of the year.  But you probably don't need me to tell you that.

Wednesday, February 8, 2017

Short Spank: A Big N-O


I've been Domming for a good, long time now.

Have I earned the right to have my own rules?  To break away from the crowd?

Yes.  I certainly think so.

I know that sometimes in the BDSM community, there can be a tendency to prove how badass we Doms are.  To be very tough, edgy, punishing, etc., etc.

I can be all those things, for sure.

But!

......and here is the kicker.....

If I think that there's a chance that any of my activities could seriously hurt someone, put them in the hospital, or require some kind of medical involvement then I won't do it.  Fuck it.  It ain't worth it.  Not to me, at least.


I think that that's a logical stance.  I have no shame about it.

So no extreme abuse, no saline injections in peoples' ball sacks and whatnot, nothing too too heavy-duty.

Spanking/whipping/flogging?  Yes.  Fetish?  For sure.  CBT?  Definitely, in moderation.

But the stunt-work kind of stuff?

Nah.  Maybe if I would have been nudged that way a long, long time ago I would have considered it but where I'm at nowadays?  No thanks, we're good.

If other kinksters want to go super-hardcore, hooray for them.  Me?  I'll stick with fetish and bondage and moderate punishments for the ones that lean that way and the light approach for my slaves that require that way of going about things.

If an S&M activity makes me concerned about a submissive, then it's off the menu. 

I think that's fair.

Thursday, January 26, 2017

Yes Master (entry 145): Enhanced Vision

Launched in 2009 as a regular column for Washington D.C.'s The New Gay website, "Yes, Master" is a series of essays, Q&A's, and rants by Chicago pro Dom, Master Aiden.  The new entries of "Yes, Master" continue here on MasterAiden.blogspot.com.  Feel free to write in, ask questions, etc.:  Master-Aiden@hotmail.com
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It would be an understatement to say that I've seen the private lives of people--their emotions, wishes, fantasies, fears, vulnerabilities, social anxieties, the deeper meanings of agreed-upon protocol and hierarchy structures, etc.--in entirely different lights because of my Domming job.

Pro Masters and Mistresses see people--many people, many different kinds of people, how we're all similar, how we're all our own islands--from odd vantage points.  To me, this is an honor and a privilege that folks are willing to reveal these sides of themselves.

I've been asked if I've become cynical after working as a BDSM Dom for 10 years.  The answer to that is a very clear No.  Not even close.  The opposite, actually. 

Working as a pro Master has made me less cynical, more empathetic, and more patient.  It's almost single-handedly murdered my shyness (may it burn in hell and never return) and forced me to be more physically present.  It's probably what I needed.  The truth of the matter is that I once was a good boy that broke bad.......and then went full circle back to being good again but in a changed, unusual way.  Beneficial wisdom gained through atypical life experience.

I've never had a more thorough understanding of how people operate privately than before I started Domming.  It's very humbling in unexpected ways.  I see things through a different lens than I used to.  It's staggering once you realize how fetishes--those deep, underlying rivers running beneath the surface of an individual's identity, sexuality, and emotional DNA--seep into other parts of peoples' lives, choices, actions, and fates.

So you want glances at the inner lives of people?

Try exploring fetish and BDSM.  You'll see things in new ways from now on.

Friday, January 13, 2017

Frequently Asked Questions


Q) What will my first experience be like with a professional BDSM Master?  I'm new to this.

A)  If you're new to BDSM, your session with me will take you through the S&M basics in a way that will be fun, thorough, and enlightening. 

Heavy pain/abuse/humiliation is for serious and deeply experienced players, not for newbies.  I'm aware of that.  If you get to the point where that's the type of session you enjoy and can handle, that's great!  We'll deal with that when you get to that point (as some of you have).  In the meantime, however, you need to be introduced to the basic elements of what BDSM is and what it can be which means different things to everyone.  Some people always stay on the lighter side of BDSM by focusing on fetish, comfortable bondage, and roleplay.  There's nothing wrong with that and plenty of my slaves have that type of temperament.  Harsh spanking, etc. is not for everyone; sometimes it's better to take a more subdued approach.

Before your first session begins, you and I will sit down and you can let me know what your interests are, what you're curious about, what turns you off, your limits, etc.  If you're willing, you could always look through the questionnaire and hone in on what your points of interest might be.  That's always a good start.

First-time sessions are relatively breezy and talked-through.  They are not stressful or scary.  I want you to have a good, enjoyable, kinky experience trying out BDSM, not a frightening one.  There's a major difference between what you see in bondage videos and movies versus how real-life professional BDSM sessions are orchestrated.  It's my job to be the realist in handling your fantasies.  I know what I'm doing and how to take care of people who are in the process of exploring their submissive sides.

Q)  Do I go to you or can you come to me?

A)  Either one.  That's your choice.  Things to consider when deciding on Incall or Outcall, are detailed on the Incalls vs. Outcalls page.  You can come to my dungeon in Chicago or I can come to your home or lodging in Chicago or the Metro Chicago area.  Anyplace within a 90-minute radius of the city is fine by me.

Q)  When are you available?

A)  I'm available to session 7 days a week.  Specific times vary by the week so make sure that you schedule your session at least 2 days in advance so that we can figure out which specific time and date (and location) will be determined for our session.  Just let me know which date, time, and location you have in mind and we'll figure it out from there.  Good scheduling is always the most important thing in making a BDSM session happen.

Q)  Will I get hurt?

A)  No.  And I'm used to doing sessions that will not leave marks either.  I'm a realist when conducting BDSM sessions, not an idealist.  I'm fully aware that my clients have other lives to get to once they exit the dungeon.

Some of my slaves want heavy abuse, marks, welts, red butt cheeks, etc. which I'm more than happy to dish out to some of them.

Most submissives, on the other hand, don't want that.  People have spouses to change clothing in front of, pool parties to attend, and so on.  If taking a lighter approach to S&M suits your lifestyle better, that's not a problem.  In truth, that's a typical concern.  We'll discuss what would be appropriate for you before your session begins.

Q)  Will there be other people there?

A)  No.  It will just be you and I.  I don't have my clients intermixing with each other or awkwardly bumping into each other.  That's just not a good thing.

If you want to get a third, or fourth, individual involved in our session that's fine but you'll be the one responsible for finding them, making sure that they're vetted for BDSM, that they have a general understanding of BDSM protocol, and that they're going to show up on time.  I do not recruit other Masters, Mistresses, or submissives into my sessions.  The "more the merrier" approach is fine when you're at a party but not necessarily in the dungeon.  Speaking from experience.

Q)  Will you be mean to me?

A)  The Cruel Dom archetype is a form of roleplay.  My roleplays begin and end during the session only, in the dungeon only, not during pre-session discussions and certainly not in phone calls, text messaging, or email communications.  I save the roleplays for real face-time only.  In most areas of my life, I'm an extremely polite guy.  I'm always straightforward and commanding but I don't act "mean" to my submissives unless it's during a scene that we both agreed on.  If a scene feels too intense, we can always modify the scene taking place.  I have no intention of ever truly hurting anyone or making anyone upset.  That's not the point.  Your session with me will take you on a journey through an imagined scenario.  My cruelty towards you is just pretend.  Some people are into that and some people aren't.  If you want me to be especially easy on you during a session, feel free to let me know in advance.  I'm used to dealing with extremely tolerant submissives who require heavy abuse but I'm also used to dealing with very sensitive individuals too.  I value all my clients equally and plan their sessions on a case-by-case basis, customized to their suit their interests and personalities.  Everyone is different and I love that.

Q)  How much does a BDSM session with you cost?

A)  Tributes are according to time spent.  $150 for one hour, $250 for 2 hours, $300 for 3 hours.

Q)  What should I wear?

A)  My slaves wear a full spectrum of preferred gear.  Some of them wear head-to-toe leather, others wear rubber masks, lycra jockstraps, cotton thongs, boxers, underoos, lingerie, you name it.  There's no reason to think elaborately unless that's what floats your boat.  Fetish can mean many, many things.  When in doubt, just wear something that turns you on and that you'll feel comfortable in.  Or wear nothing.  That's always an option.

As for me, I realized a long time ago that what I wear during BDSM sessions is basically a dark version of sportswear.  I have to be able to move easily and comfortably through long scenes. 

Because my slaves come in all shapes and sizes, I do not provide wearables for my clients unless we're referring to gimp masks and hoods.  I do have those that I can put you in.  As for your jockstrap or thong, you have to take care of that yourself.

Q)  Can I meet you first before an actual BDSM session?

A)  Yes.  You could always stop by my dungeon or meet me somewhere for coffee.  Meetings are $100 per hour.

Q)  What is the protocol for addressing you?

A)  Master or Sir is fine.

Tuesday, January 10, 2017

Photography Services





Not only am I a professional BDSM Master, I offer photography services too.

If you're in the Chicago area and need photos done for your own purposes (for your dating profiles, kink ads, etc.), let me know and I'll take pictures for you.

I live in Chicago (in the northwest part of the city) and have my own dungeon space.  We can do shots of you here at my place with all that gear (floggers, paddles, sling, shackles, and so on) or I can come to you and bring gear with me.  I enjoy being behind the camera (more than being in front of it to be honest with you) and it's a fun side-gig that I've been doing off and on for 10 years now.

My services are available to men, women, trans, and non-binary individuals.  You must be at least 21 years old.



What can you expect when I take your picture?

* images that are edgy, timeless, interesting, and sophisticated

* no unfortunate/awkward poses; I'll make you look your best and we'll work together to get the images that will present you in the ways that you're aiming for

* absolute privacy

* individuals, couples, and groups are fine by me



* relaxed, fun, easy, light-hearted creative environments (I realize that some of the photos here may look intense/dark but the process of shooting them is extremely chill, professional, safe, comfortable, and focused on final outcome)

* fast shoots with quick, reliable turn-around's

* an objective and completely non-judgmental guy behind the camera (if you want lightly kinky, that's fine....if you need grittier images, than lets do that too.....not a problem); freaking me out is extremely difficult as you can probably guess

* your pictures don't have to be leather, chains, and whips if you don't want to go that route; sexy vanilla, "normal", and boudoir portraits/concepts are typical requests as well

* location shoots available

* very affordable, fair services

* bare-bones tech (just a few lights in most cases, the camera, the tripod, some good editing software; nothing fancy or fussy) with great results

* beautiful final photos



I'm easy to work with and (because of my Domming job) I'm used to being around kinky men and women of all ages, shapes, sizes, identities, and leanings.

All of the main images that you see on my blog and website are pictures that I've art-directed and/or shot myself.  I have a certain style that I lean towards so--just to be straightforward with you--chances are that your photographs will end up having a similar tone/vibe/aesthetic regarding what you see here on my blog.  If that works for you, then let's schedule your photo shoot and create some good, strong images that you can use for your purposes.



When I'm the subject--when I'm in front of the camera--I typically direct the photographers that I work with so that they know exactly what I'm aiming for and we shoot with the camera that I own (because I'm used to the settings, the file types, etc.).  I like my camera, I've had it for a long time, and I'm happy with the way it creates images.  When one of my photographer collaborators isn't available to take shots, I'll just get out the ol' tripod, set the camera timer, and do the photos of myself by myself (sometimes I have a slave joining me to create the photo story and then, at other times, I'm the only one in the photos).  So, by this point, after doing BDSM photos for my own website and blog for many years, I've gotten pretty good at creating kinky photos.

Plenty of people need images for their Fetlife profiles, Tinder accounts, Scruff profiles, Grindr, adult services provider advertisements, etc., and so on.  Too often you see a lot of awkward selfies, party/vacation pics with blurred faces, mirror shots, etc. but, if you want to go with something that's significantly better while still affordable and easily doable, contact me and, together, you and I will create some good content for your personal/private endeavors.

Because every project is completely different--and every subject/client is different--I don't have a set rate that I work with.  Just let me know what you need, and what your vision is, and we'll figure out a compensation that is fair for everyone.

master-aiden@hotmail.com

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Tuesday, January 3, 2017

a few fetish thoughts


A couple of quick things:

*I'm glad that you guys--and girls (I'm not forgetting about the ladies)--enjoyed the last set of pics.  They were a lot of fun to do and they came out pretty ridiculous which I think may have been for the best.  A little bit of levity is a beautiful thing sometimes, right?  Absofuckinglutely.


*The black zentai outfit that I wore in the Holidays 2016 Gallery was a really interesting experience.  The look was cool with the lights and all of that but I'm not used to zentai and I don't think that I would wear that kind of thing during an actual session.  For the pics, I removed the head section of the outfit because, obviously, I have to see what I'm doing in order to Dominate people and I didn't like having my hands covered because that makes me feel disconnected from the slave and the gear that I'm using.  I've mentioned on this blog before that I like having leather or rubber gloves on in photographs--because it's a great aesthetic and it's intense-looking--but, in real life, during sessions, I don't like having gloves on.  I like to have my hands free and open so that I feel fully connected to the submissive, so that I can feel all the buttons on certain pieces of gear, and so on, you get the idea.  Everybody has their quirks, do's, dont's, things that they prefer, things that bug them, etc.  Anyway, I like to be a bit more free and open than zentai and gloves allow but, for picture purposes, yes, zentai and gloves can be interesting.  I noticed that that outfit made my head look bigger than it is and my body smaller than it is which I thought was......a bit strange.  One of the things about trying new things--whether it's leather gear or rubber or zentai or whatever the hell--is that the effect and the experience can be different than what you expect.  But it's good to try new things, of course!


*I've loved using my leather bondage straps a lot lately during sessions--thank you, RubberSlingW--and I don't know why it took me a while to fully appreciate using big, wide, leather straps to confine people but they can be really perfect (basically, they're like huge, long belts but meant for bondage).  Ropes, specialty bondage tape, chains, locks, shackles, etc. are all great, standard go-to's but those leather straps are awesome!  Perfect for me because, as my slaves know, I like to move things along and get to the point when it comes to bondage (I don't like for things to take all day) so those straps definitely suit my personality.  So, yes, people, try out leather straps and belts on your submissives to bind them not only to whip them.  Very useful, works like a charm.  And, from what I can tell, it's a comfortable mode of bondage which matters a lot.


*Speaking of straps, have you ever noticed that sometimes, with certain pieces, it seems like leather shackles and confines for wrists and ankles are either one notch too tight or one notch too loose?  That always pisses me off.  What I do--and what I suggest to you folks who sometimes find themselves with a similar inconvenience--is to drill extra holes (additional notches ) between the notches that were originally created on your leather gear.  Just do it carefully with a smaller-sized drill bit.  It's easy and it takes 5 seconds.  Just have a wood block underneath the leather while you're drilling (I use an old wooden knife holder that I got for like a buck at a thrift store as a wood under-block; it's very useful, you can easily store it in a cabinet, and then bust it out when altering leather pieces).  So, yes, additional notches can make all the difference during BDSM sessions.  Obviously creating additional notches in leather pieces is fine but don't try that with rubber bondage gear or you'll ruin it.


*Working on some new articles for this blog, ordering gear for the next photo shoot (in February), and doing S&M sessions with my clients as usual.  I'm actually really glad that the holidays are over and now we can move on to the new stuff for '17.

Saturday, December 31, 2016

Holidays Gallery 2016


Dreaming In Real Time














"Dreams come through stone walls, light up dark rooms, or darken light ones, and their persons make their exits and their entrances as they please and laugh at locksmiths."

-- J. Sheridan Le Fanu
































I'm the Master in these photos and the submissives are Chgowestslave and ScrappleChingon. (thanks, guys!)