Wednesday, February 10, 2016

Because I Can't Resist

So, yes, we're working on the Winter 2016 Gallery right now.  Everything's on schedule and it's going well.  I'll post the whole thing on here at the end of this month.

This upcoming set of pics is all gothic desolation, snow, torment, and leather.  "Penance/Purgatory".  A big, ol' ray of sunshine if there ever was one (I'm joking).

I want this gallery to be a dark, fetishistic epic.  An erotic horror movie.  That's what I had in mind before we started this new set.

That being said, the stuff that we've shot so far is really good and I love the way it's turning out.  I'm not going to show any more previews until I post everything up here in 2 weeks but here's 2 snaps that I had to share because I think they're pretty great (good job to my special guest photographer, Mr. PET!).  One of the concepts for the Winter 2016 Gallery is a sort of BDSM boogeyman and I wanted my mask to be a cross between a medieval dungeon master, pharaoh, and Komodo dragon with spikes, flaps, zippers, etc.  I was worried that the mask would turn out lame (because that's an odd mixture of references and how would it all fit together?) but I'm pretty happy with the results (we made the mask ourselves out of bits and pieces; it took about 2 hours to do which isn't too bad).  We wanted to make sure that I looked scary for this section of the new set and I think that the photographer hit his mark.


How would you feel if you woke up in the middle of the night and you saw this gentleman at the foot of your bed?

Would you run screaming or would you stick around to see what he had in store for you?

Monday, February 8, 2016

underwear over where?

I think that a lot of people would prefer to spend Valentine's Day in their underwear--or getting out of it--in some capacity.

Touche (Chicago's leather bar for guys that lean towards all things fetish....) will be hosting a Winter Underwear Fetish Party on Sunday night, February 14th along with a 2016 Mr. Union Suit contest.

There will be:
- free clothing check and raffle
- judging at midnight for guys competing for Mr. Union Suit 2016 (the winner will receive a trophy and $100 cash prize)
- $1 off drinks for men in union suits, long johns, underwear, or jockstraps


6412 North Clark Street
Chicago, IL  60626

The Rules of Multiplication

So you want a group scene?

Most of the sessions that I do with clients are 1-on-1--just them and myself.  However.......I'm willing to conduct sessions with multiple people as long as you're aware of my 4 rules concerning these kinds of scenes:

1.)  I can co-Dom with another Master or Mistress or I can dominate you alongside another individual (or individuals) who will be submitting.  Multiple Doms and/or multiple slaves are fine.

2.)  I, Master Aiden, am always a Dom, no matter how many other people you get to be involved in our session.  There are no exceptions.  Not only that, I'll be the Master orchestrating our scenes.  If I'm going to be involved in your BDSM session, I will be the one in charge of the scenes whether it involves 3 people, 5 people, 70 people, etc.

3.)  If you want a session featuring multiple Masters and/or multiple slaves, you are responsible for finding, scheduling, and vetting whoever these individuals might be.  I do not recruit other Masters, Mistresses, or slaves for my sessions.  I do not have other Masters, Mistresses, or slaves on tap, waiting, or at my beck and call who are chomping at the bit to join us.  Most of my friends are straight guys with serious girlfriends or wives.  As much as they tell me "If I were gay, I'd want you to be my boyfriend, Aiden...."--and that's nice and I take that as a compliment, thanks guys--their desire to engage in BDSM with us, on a scale from 1 to 10 is 0.5 at best.  Don't take it personally.  Now, as for my slaves and clients.....  They're successful professionals with busy, full lives outside of dungeon play.  I would never put them on the spot expecting them to co-sub alongside someone they don't know nor would I be foolish enough to request something like that from them.  You want more people involved in our sessions?  That's all on you, pal.

4.)  I am willing to show the BDSM basics to whomever your additional participant(s) may be if necessary.  Grizzled veterans of the bondage world are perfect for including in sessions but inexperienced newbies can be great too.  I will do my best to make your additional player(s) feel empowered and comfortable during our scene, whether they'll be co-Domming alongside me or submitting with you.

Things to keep in mind:

* I'm not a huge fan of flakes or goofballs, personally speaking.  I don't find them to be as charming or intriguing as other people may.  If you're going to be including another person (or persons) in your session with me, please make sure that they're not drunk or stoned.  Whether or not they actually show up for our session is on you.  Remember......this is your guest, not mine.  How they behave is your responsibility.

* No, I do not charge my clients an extra fee on my tribute if I'm co-Domming alongside another Master or Mistress.  Whatever compensation you're providing for that additional player is between you and them--it's none of my business.

* Yes, I know that you love those erotic videos where there's a bunch of hot, dominant guys bossing around a bunch of hot submissive guys.  They're awesome, I get that.  But you have to recognize that those are productions--they're not documentaries--that are paying (paying very, very well.....) those beautiful men from different corners of the world to show up at a certain time and place to engage in those acts.  If they weren't being paid very, very well to be there and to do that, you wouldn't be watching those men on that set getting busy.  You do realize that, correct?.....The difference between the reality of an everyday, real-deal BDSM session vs. the magnificence of an erotic video that you've watched online (created by a million-dollar adult video production company) shouldn't need to be articulated.  Be reasonable, be rational, be realistic.  Unless you're an extremely high roller with incredible resource$ and communication skills, your BDSM group scene is probably going to look significantly different compared to whatever leather orgy Bound Gods or Sean Cody has managed to cook up.  But you know that already and there's nothing wrong with that.

* I, Master Aiden, am only 1 hot guy.  Just 1.  I'm on my own here.  I can't clone myself at whim or divide myself like an amoeba.  There aren't a lot of male Doms around because it's a complicated job that requires a lot of safety, experience, technical know-how, a ton of gear, unique empathy, and--most importantly--an understanding of BDSM contradictions in order to make our sessions work as intended.  Professional Domming isn't for everyone which is why there are only a small handful of professional Masters that you can hire.  I'm one of the few of them and there are probably less than 10 or so pro S&M Masters here in the United States.  Needless to say, there are more escorts than there are S&M Masters.  If you need to hire an escort to take on the role of Master in a session alongside me--to be my co-Master in tormenting you--than go ahead and do so.  I've had good experiences, disappointing experiences, and so-so experiences when it comes to co-Domming with people that I've never met before.  Use your best judgement when it comes to hiring or recruiting additional players for BDSM sessions.

Friday, February 5, 2016

A River (almost) Runs Through It

My car, that is.

I don't do Golden Showers anymore and I haven't done them for a good, long time now.

But why is that?

Okay, here's the story:

A few years ago, I had promised a slave boy that I would piss on him if he was a good submissive and if he earned it.  Fair enough, not a huge deal, because BDSM.

Any way.....

So I drink a bunch of fluids (probably just water, if I'm remembering correctly), get into my car, cruise onto the freeway, and head towards his residence in the suburbs.  It's just a short, easy distance.

Driving in Chicago in the summer can be quite an adventure.  Because of construction, crowded roads, etc., what should be the quickest, easiest drive in the world a few streets away can turn into a 45-minute schedule-destroyer.  There's a certain kind of hot weather standstill that Chicago specializes in.  Freeways, major roads, not-so-major roads, side streets(!), anywhere where cars can go, surprisingly harsh traffic jams can and will occur.  They happen every once in while and you Chicagoans reading this know exactly what I'm talking about.....

On that particular summer day--the Golden Shower day--of all days, I find myself stuck in an extremely serious traffic jam on I-94.  And I'm ready to pee really fucking badly.  The traffic jam went on and on and on.  No one was moving and, if they were at all, it was centimeters followed by long pauses.  Time dragged on, the clock pushed forward while everyone waited.  I found myself in a situation and I had never had to drain the lizard more, at any point in my life, than I had to at that moment in time.  I though that my bladder was going to explode or that I was going to pass out.  Unless I was going to abandon my car, getting off the freeway quickly and easily was not an option.

I thought to myself:  "Yep, I'm definitely going to end up in the hospital from this.  What a dumb reason to go to the hospital.....a burst bladder.  Jesus fucking christ....."

My other option was simply pissing my pants in the car, fucking up the car seat from the pee, etc.  Like I said, this was a situation and there was no good possibility anywhere on the horizon from my vantage point.

Somehow, miraculously, I was able to make it off of the freeway and slowly remove myself from my vehicle.  I painfully waddled (making sure not to go too fast because I was convinced that any sudden movement would result in a literal rupture of a major organ) into a gas station bathroom and finally relieved myself.

While I was standing there, creating a waterfall in the toilet, I thought:  "Never again.  Fuck this."

And, after that, I never had the urge to indulge anyone with Golden Showers ever again.  That was the end of that.  Sometimes we in the BDSM community experience some Charlie Brown bullshit while attempting to create mind-bending, dark, and erotic kink epics.  Real life intervenes.  A funny thing happened on the way to the dungeon.

So if some of you slaves get the sads when I reply with definitive "No!!!!!"'s to Golden Shower requests (and requests within that specific type of niche, etc.), you know why.

A summer traffic jam in Chicago ruined it for all of us.  whomp, whomp.

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Get Roped In

Whoa--wait a second!

Update yourselves, ladies and gentlemen, because this year Chicagoland's annual Shibaricon is taking place this weekend instead of its usual slot on the calendar (typically, Shibaricon takes place on Memorial Day weekend--the same weekend as Chicago's other big fetish event, IML).

Maybe this means that kinksters won't have to chose between one or the other anymore?  (Especially since the Shibaricon and IML events take place in areas that are not close to each other, geographically) And maybe this means more attendees for Shibaricon and more attendees for IML since they won't be competing with each other?  That would be great!

But who knows if this will be a new thing or if this is just something that's going to happen this year only?

Whatever the case may be, this weekend belongs to Shibaricon, an all-inclusive event for kinky adults which focuses on shibari rope work (as you may assume) and will feature classes, play parties, and a vendors' fair.

Here is the link for this weekend's event info along with registration, the Shibaricon '16 schedule, and all that other good stuff:

Monday, January 25, 2016

Yes, Master (entry 137): Q&A's, January 2016

Launched in 2009 as a regular column for Washington D.C.'s The New Gay website, "Yes, Master" is a series of essays, Q&A's, and rants by Chicago pro Dom, Master Aiden.  The new entries of "Yes, Master" continue here on  Feel free to write in, ask questions, etc.:

Alright, thanks for sending in your emails.  Here are some of the questions that I've gotten this month along with my answers to them.  Some of the questions are about S&M while others were not necessarily related to fetish.  But that's fine--there's no such thing as a stupid question--and I'm happy to answer them for you.

Q:  Dear Master Aiden, thank you for the session that we had [last month].  It was an incredible experience and I look forward to scheduling with you again.  Would you be willing to come to WI when I have a business trip there in March?

A:  Yes, I'd be willing to come up to Wisconsin to session with you as long as it's within a 3-hour trip to/from Chicago.  I would need you to specify which city you'll be going to in Wisconsin (Milwaukee?  Madison?) before I agree to that session.  My rule of thumb for outcalls is no extra charge as long as it's within an hour radius of Chicago.  When the outcall destination extends beyond an hour, I expect that the client will be compensating me for that extra time and fuel.  Of course.  If the hotel for your upcoming trip to Wisconsin is further than 3 hours away from Chicago it's more than likely that I'll take a pass on that session and, instead, wait to session with you during some upcoming trip that's within Chicago or within a 3-hour radius of Chicago.  If I'm going to meet you at an outcall destination that's more than 3 hours away from Chicago, you need to make sure that I'm going to be very well compensated for that journey and we'll have to discuss those terms on a case-by-case basis.

Q:  I have fantasies of being spanked but I'm a recently married gay man.  My husband isn't into bondage and leather so I'm interested in coming to see you for a session. I'm concerned that my husband will notice marks/redness if I were to be punished by you.  He doesn't care if I go to see a professional S&M Dom--like I said, he isn't turned on by my fetish--but he doesn't want to see whip marks on my back, butt, etc.  I want it to stay private.  Is there any way that you could paddle me during a session without it being obvious afterward?

A:  Absolutely.  This is a very typical request and I'm used to dishing out light spankings, heavy spankings, medium-roast spankings, etc. and so on.  I can make sure that you'll be, technically, nicely spanked without leaving you with marks or red cheeks if need be.

Q:  What is your favorite thing to do to a slave?

A:  Usually flogging and paddling.  But it depends on the slave and it depends on the day.....

Q:  Would you be willing to have a buddy come join us and--

A:  Next month I'm going to be posting a new policy on this blog that refers specifically to the possibility of additional participants in BDSM sessions, what is expected from those additional participants, and what is expected from my clients if they are going to be including an additional participant (or participants) in a session.  That question will be answered thoroughly as its own page so that I can refer clients to it when they have that particular inquiry.  Overall, I'm open to conducting BDSM sessions that include 3 people, 4 people, whatever but.....there are going to be new, higher standards that everyone must agree to.

Q:  Are you single, Sir?

A:  Okay, this is a common question.

Master Aiden is my Domming personae when I'm conducting BDSM sessions.  Just like every other professional BDSM Master or Mistress, I have my life and name in the dungeon beating and binding people.....and then I have my life outside of the dungeon where I pay bills, go by the name that's on my drivers license, work on non-BDSM related projects, go to family weddings, attend Thanksgiving dinner with my grandparents, etc., and so on.

Master Aiden--the Dom, the BDSM dungeon Master--defies singledom and coupledom.  His/my only concern is tormenting people and conducting/discussing bondage, punishment, kink, and fetish.  His/my slaves are my partners and boyfriends--and, most importantly, my submissives!!!--for whatever length of time they're serving me.

But, now, if you're asking about my personal everyday life outside of the dungeon and putting aside the leather boots and whips......

Yes, I'm single at the moment.

Q:  What kind of guys are you into?

A:  Good-looking, sensitive, soulful guys.  Emotionally intelligent guys.  Just like everyone else, I appreciate men who take care of themselves physically but I'm more impressed by someone who writes or makes music or designs things or creates his own business--a creative, an intellectual, a reader, a serious businessperson, an invested sportsman, someone who truly cares about whatever it is that they do or are passionate about, someone along those lines--rather than some empty, trendy, gym-y douchebag.  If you wrote a poem, read books, or volunteer somewhere, then that's what I think is interesting.

Q:  Hi, Master, there's a scene that I would like to do but I'm not sure if it's possible or if it's something that you would offer.  I have a fantasy of being locked in a car in bondage for a couple of hours while you drive me around, threaten me, verbally abuse me, and then take me back to your dungeon for more bondage and abuse.  Could we do a session like this?

A:  That's very creative and it sounds great.  Definitely doable.

Q:  I would like to be punished in front of people and humiliated in this way.  Would you meet me at a leather party and beat me in front of other men?

A:  Yes, of course.

Q:  Are you part of a professional collective of Dungeon Masters and Mistresses or are you solo?

A:  I'm independent.  Just me.  I was part of a dungeon collective a long time ago--it was a good experience--but nowadays I just do my own thing.

Q:  I didn't believe that you were actually a real Dom until I met you and had my first session with you in Chicago.  Please forgive me, Sir.  My session with you was fun and helped me realize that I could be a "slave" for you and enjoy it.  I was comfortable with you, Sir.  How is it that you're able to make a submissive like myself feel at ease while being completely vulnerable and scared?  I confess that I was scared to meet you at first, Sir.

A:  I've heard other people say this.  Hmmm.  Well, as you know, when you meet me you realize that I'm a strict, serious Dom but I'm a nice guy and definitely not scary at all.  I'm glad that you had a good time at your session (as you should!).  I'm used to dealing with many different kinds of submissives (experienced ones, inexperienced ones, ones that can handle lots of abuse and bondage, ones that can only handle very light abuse and bondage, heavy fetishists, ones who are just beginning to explore fetishes, etc., etc., etc.) so, by this point, I feel like I can easily figure out what kind of approach to take with you slave boys so that you can have a good BDSM session without it being a "scary" experience.  I'm more than happy to be merciless and very mean with some of you guys but only with the ones who I know can handle that kind of session.  Many of you can only handle moderate bondage--and require a more subdued approach--and that's fine too.  Everybody's different and their interests/fantasies are different.  As you know, I want your S&M experiences with me to be--overall--beneficial and insightful rather than stressful.  You have to realize that even though people who do what I do are (typically) domineering, black-clad "tyrants" (when the moment calls for it), this is still a client services job and we want you to enjoy yourself and your sessions with us.....even when you're "suffering".

Thursday, January 21, 2016

he didn't mean it about B&D but it's perfectly applicable

...."But freedom, liberty, is an attribute of the soul and it may exist even when the body is in bondage."

-- Ralph Adams Cram

Some of you are probably thinking:  ".....especially when the body is in bondage...."

Thursday, January 14, 2016

Lots To Do In 2016

This year is going to be a very busy year for me not only with BDSM stuff but, also, with other projects outside of that part of my life (you slaves who know me well know that I'm a busy guy).

So, when it comes to BDSM, here's what's going on with me for this year:

* Work as usual.  Attending to established clients as well as taking on new ones which means....

* ....that I'll be doing more postings on this blog which give a bit more insight into the different facets of my life.  I can't blame people for wanting to know more about me, my personality, my insights--when it comes to BDSM especially--before becoming slaves/clients.  That makes sense.  I'll never be an oversharer--that's not my style and that doesn't suit my personality--but I'll be making a conscientious effort to shed more light on what makes me tick and how I go about doing what I do.  Will I be annoying and overshare?  No.  But I will try to give more opinions and personal insights when I can, usually regarding BDSM.  But I'll throw out some fun, random asides as well from time to time.

* There will definitely be more photo shoots this year.  4.  One for each season.  As a matter of fact, we've already starting shooting some material for the upcoming Winter 2016 Gallery (which will be posted on this blog in the later portion of February).  That's where the photo above is from but, as you can assume, there's a lot to do.  I was really happy with how the Holidays 2015 Gallery turned out (sporty, natural, American, fresh, kinky, colorful, kind of whimsical in some ways--I'm glad that we tackled those themes and how they mesh unexpectedly well with BDSM) but, now, for the Winter 2016 Gallery, it's time for a 180 turn.

The Winter 2016 Gallery is going to be sort of traditional bondage and leather stuff.....but I like to go with certain themes because they help me focus on what kinds of scenes to visually illustrate.  To tell a kind of abstract story with backdrops, poses, punishments, myself with my submissive models, what gear we'll be choosing to use, and so on.  The Winter 2016 Gallery is going to be gothic, shiny black surfaces, snowy desolation, harshness, penance, punishments, bureaucracies, crumbling towers, that sort of thing.  Kind of medieval but in a modern context.  Cinematic gloom and doom.  Kinky horror movie but not campy, cute, or funny.  Gritty, cold, gothic, strong images.  We'll lighten up for upcoming picture sets later this year but for Winter 2016, I want some fear and darkness.  A kind of BDSM Dante's Inferno.  All the photo galleries coming up for this year are all loosely planned out already and they will all have their own different feelings and distinct flavors.  I think that you'll really like them.....

Why do I do these photo shoots?  It's advertising, people.  C'mon, you know that already.  It's business.  As an adult services provider it's part of my job to update my photos regularly so why not do some really cool, imaginative stuff and make my newest photos different and arty rather than just purely functional and basic?  I know some very talented, creative people and they help give me concept ideas, outfits, bondage gear as well as providing models to be my submissives (sometimes the submissives in my pictures are actual clients but, usually, they're people that I get just for these photo shoots) and behind-the-camera photography skills.  I know some creative folks and they're willing to participate in my projects.  I'm a lucky Dom.

* 2016 will have--and it goes without saying--more "Yes, Master" entries, events postings, new pics, and some other good stuff on this blog at least once a week.

Tuesday, January 12, 2016

Right In The Middle

Most people head south or west in the winter but, if you're in the U.S., you may want to go east instead and visit our nation's capitol later this week.

The Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend will be taking place in Washington D.C. starting on Friday the 15th.  Contests, parties, vendor's market, etc. (that region's version of our Chicago International Mr. Leather).

Information, schedule, and registration for Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend is HERE.

Thursday, January 7, 2016

Hear Ye, Hear Ye

I'll be doing a Q&A post later this month so if you have any questions, go ahead and email me.

BDSM-related questions are mainly what we're aiming for; some personal questions are okay but I may or may not answer those--let's stick to BDSM stuff overall considering this blog's subject matter.

No changes in my email address, it's the same as ever:

Wednesday, December 23, 2015

Holidays Gallery 2015

the theme:  Gold Rush, USA

Slave LBJ is the slave boy, SCST took the snaps, and (of course, goes without saying) I'm the Master in these photos.