Tuesday, May 24, 2016

Alienation

Here's a quick sneak at the new set of photos that are coming up on Thursday.

I wanted to do something high-concept--a kind of freaky graphic novel type of story--for this most recent stuff.  The goal was just to do something weird and bizarre like a b-movie from the 80's so I thought "What if some misbehaving submissive gets abducted by aliens?" (why not?) so I found a model to be the slave (the captive) and I play a group of sadistic, undercover aliens (which I enjoyed playing) that all sorta-kinda look the same (which makes sense considering).  So I cooked up a story, tossed in some urban myth, got a few pieces of different gear just for this project, nabbed my usual photographer guy, and all of this mess will be posted in a couple of days.

Will this be a favorite set of photos?  Probably not.

Maybe the sci-fi geeks, heavy role-player types, etc. will be into it but I'm anticipating that plenty of you will not be feeling these.  But oh well.  This isn't the first set of photos that we've done and it certainly won't be the last.  So it's good to do something different sometimes, right?  Right.

I'll do some more "normal", traditional fetish leather photo material next month in June (I said that I would be doing plenty, more frequent, pictures this year and I meant it.....) but, for now, you'll have to enjoy the dorky extraterrestrial kidnapping photo story that we did for spring.

I think that it's a fun, weird concept to try that fits in a BDSM context relatively well.  Some of you will agree and some of you won't but, hey, at least it's something off-kilter from the usual.




Saturday, May 21, 2016

"Master, May I?"


You May.  Because it's May.  (I'm trying to be funny here; just go with it)

This month has a lot going on with it because, as many of you know--especially you kinky Midwesterners--International Mr. Leather will be happening here in Chicago next week.

Also next week (Thursday, probably) I'll have my Spring 2016 Gallery posted up.  It's pretty ridiculous.  It's a sci-fi bondage-themed photo play.  Some of you will "get it" and the rest of you will just think that it's fucking silly (which it is.....) but I wanted to do something really different for this round.  And different it definitely is.  For better or for worse.

In the meantime, for those of you who are fully aware that the Heartland is more than picket fences and apple pies, there's a BDSM event going on this weekend in Iowa called Mischief in May.  The link for that is right HERE.

Thursday, May 19, 2016

Willy Wonka Policy


In the book "Charlie and the Chocolate Factory" by Roald Dahl, Willy Wonka has a certain rule that he follows regarding his guests.

The rule, which we find out at the end of the story, basically means that no matter what harrowing or bizarre experience a person has inside the funhouse, the guest is always just fine when it all comes down to it.  No real harm done.

Maybe they're imprinted with a strange memory from their adventures or they gained an epiphany concerning life but, at the end of the day, all is well and everyone--even those who were temporarily made taller or changed into a blueberry--eventually goes back to normal, the same as they were before.  The only difference is that they've now learned a lesson about themselves.

That's the best kind of policy to have.

Friday, May 13, 2016

Yes, Master (entry 142): Spring 2016 Q&A's

Launched in 2009 as a regular column for Washington D.C.'s The New Gay website, "Yes, Master" is a series of essays, Q&A's, and rants by Chicago pro Dom, Master Aiden.  The new entries of "Yes, Master" continue here on MasterAiden.blogspot.com.  Feel free to write in, ask questions, etc.:  Master-Aiden@hotmail.com
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It's time for the A's to some of your more recent Q's so here we go......

Q:  I enjoy reading your blog and thoughts on BDSM subject matter but I wish that you would write more about your personal life.  Would you show more of a glimpse inside your day to day, please Sir?

A:  Hmm.....right.  I'm not sure if writing about my day to day would be all that interesting without the BDSM aspect to it.  ("I get up at 8 in the morning.....then I go to the grocery store......then I work on a project and do emails.....").  Normally I focus more on general BDSM stuff but I'll do a few more personal posts too.  I'll get to them but I'll try not to make them boring.

Q:  Hi, Master Aiden:  I would like to know more about what your experience is with shibari bondage.  Could you send me a link?

A:  Shibari isn't my cup of tea.  It just isn't.  I've dabbled but I'm too impatient for it.  I don't have the right kind of personality for shibari.  I respect the hell out of it--I admire those who do it and I think it's beautiful and hot-looking--but I'm more of a shackles-and-chains kind of guy.  Sometimes I use rope for certain scenes but I'm kind of medieval about it.  Whatever rope work I do will be effective but it won't be necessarily pretty.  I love my chains, locks, carabiners, straps, and that sort of gear most of all.


For those of you who do lean towards shibari, there are some incredible sites to check out.  Just Google "shibari bondage", "shibari Master", etc. and you'll definitely find great material to admire and inspire you.

Q:  Dear Master Aiden, how much would it cost me to have you send me a pair of your used underwear?

A:  I like my underwear and gear.  I can be picky about it.  The brands/lines that I like the best can be difficult to replace sometimes so I'm not sending you nothin'!

Q:  I don't see them on you but I thought that I should ask anyway.  Do you have any tattoos?

A:  No, I don't have any tattoos.  That surprises me too.

Q:  Do you work on sissy slaves and would you be willing to work on me?

A:  Yes, I've worked on sissy slaves before (plenty).  So, yes, go ahead and schedule.


Q:  Do you own any latex gear, Master?  I would love to do a scene with you where you're humiliating me while wearing latex or a rubber officers uniform.

A:  Some of my slaves are big rubber and latex enthusiasts so they wear that kind of gear a lot during their sessions with me.  I love the look and feel of rubber on my submissives and on other people but I don't wear rubber myself.  I lean towards basic cotton jocks, shirts, leather boots and cuffs, spandex sometimes.  My sessions are extremely active and I have to feel comfortable if I'm going to be binding and beating people for 2 hours, 3 hours, etc.

Q:  Forgive me for asking, Sir, but my curiosity got the best of me:  Cut or Uncut?

A:  Cut.  You nosy motherfucker.

Thursday, May 5, 2016

05-05


Touche Chicago is doing a Cinco de Mayo-themed evening tonight for those of you looking to celebrate the day accordingly with a bit of kink (of course!).

Touche's website is right HERE

Friday, April 29, 2016

Yes, Master (entry 141): Real To Real

Launched in 2009 as a regular column for Washington D.C.'s The New Gay website, "Yes, Master" is a series of essays, Q&A's, and rants by Chicago pro Dom, Master Aiden.  The new entries of "Yes, Master" continue here on MasterAiden.blogspot.com.  Feel free to write in, ask questions, etc.:  Master-Aiden@hotmail.com
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Fantasies are powerful.  There's no question when it comes to that.

They exist in their own sort of strong reality; the reality within each of us.

Fantasies are figments of our imaginations, desires that boil in the back of our minds.  Sometimes our desires, our wishes, become so strong and so plausible, that we have no other choice than to figure out a way to make them materialize.

BDSM play is, if nothing else, fantasy brought to life.

I've said it before and I'll say it again:

We live in a society in which we're extremely fortunate.  Uniquely fortunate.

Do you realize how fortunate we are, to live in the time and places in which we live?

We are able, as adults, to explore our fantasies.  No matter what gender--or how you declare your gender or nongender--, no matter what race, no matter if you're straight or gay or bisexual or other, no matter if you're a young adult or middle-aged or getting up there.......

We can be dominant or submissive if we choose to be.  We can be both if we choose to be.

Your fantasies are possible.  The realities in your dreams can be pulled into the physical world.

Are all fantasies doable?  No, not all of them are.  Some are doable, but not all of them.

Some wishes aren't plausible.  Nor should they be.  It's important to recognize where certain things belong, to compartmentalize.

Some dreams can merge, intact, through the membrane that exists between the inner world of peoples secret wishes and the physical plane.

But then there are other dreams that thrive in the vaults of imagination but don't translate well in the outside world.  Recognize the difference.

Compromise.

In BDSM, compromise is everything.

If something is too much of too much, know it.  We're all adults here.  Our fantasies are our creations and they answer to us.  Don't let your fantasies trample all over you, don't let them boss you around.  You can--and will--be submissive to men playing the role of Master and women playing the role of Mistress but don't lose control of your own impulses.

Realize that some fantasies need to be modified in order to keep yourself safe and/or out of consideration for other people.

BDSM is not chaos.  It's not utter mayhem.

Be honest with yourself.

When something needs to be adjusted to the benefit of your S&M adventures--and the adventures of those you session with--adjust it.

BDSM is too good of a thing to be sabotaged by your own overreaching fantasies (or the overreaching fantasies of other people......).

It's not all-or-nothing.  Know when to alter things, know when to compromise.

Use strategy, pre-planning, total realism (throw your rose-colored glasses into the trash bin), and effort in order to translate your BDSM desires from the world inside your head to the world that you physically experience.  No, that's not asking for something outside your capability.

Some fantasies can happen verbatim.  No changes necessary from your dreams to the clanking dungeon.  Those fantasies are doable, plausible, realistic, safe, and not asking for too much.  They're within the personal abilities of your Masters or Mistresses who have the resources and the gear--the devices, the toys, the clothing--to make them happen.


But then there are those other fantasies, on the other hand, that may need to be tossed out.  Those are the fantasies that are too much, too dangerous, too vicious, too inconsiderate of others, too strategically over-the-top, or too elaborate.

Good, safe, fun, healthy BDSM is for many things--for so many things and for so much.  You can absolutely transcend your previous (unnecessary) inhibitions and accomplish things in your personal life that you never thought you'd be able to do.   But BDSM is not everything.  It's not for everything.  There are limits.  For all of us.  Of course there are.  Know that, realize that, accept that.

Any kinkster who tells you "Anything is possible!" is getting carried away.  Know when to activate your side-eye.

Wednesday, April 20, 2016

What Do You Have To Say For Yourself!?!


Or, rather, what would you like to ask?

I do these from time to time:

In a couple of weeks I'll do another Q&A posting so if some of you readers have questions that you'd like to ask me, go ahead and email me.  Ones that I haven't answered before (and that keep on-subject--stick to BDSM questions, please), I'll answer in a blog posting.

If you're going to email a question, do it before May 1st.

As always, my email is   master-aiden@hotmail.com

Thursday, April 14, 2016

learn a thing or two


The Leather Archives and Museum in Chicago will be hosting a lecture by Gayle Rubin titled "Archival Fetishism:  Decades of Documenting Leather History" on Saturday, April 23rd from 3pm to 5pm.

"Archival Fetishism" will focus on Rubin's archival collection and the trajectory of LGBT/leather archives and repositories.

Doors open at 2:30pm.  This an event for adults 18 and up.

Leather Archives and Museum members enter free.  Students and Seniors 65+ will pay a $5 admission while general admission is $10.

The Leather Archives website (with location, etc.) is right HERE

Thursday, April 7, 2016

about the next photo shoot


Spring has sprung, oh yes it has.

My usual sessions are keeping me busy--things are going great--and I'm also getting my stuff in order for this year's upcoming BDSM photo projects.

I'm very tempted to tell you all about what's cooking at the moment but I'm not going to let the cat out of the bag completely, so.....

For the Spring 2016 Gallery:  the picture on this post is my inspiration.

Yeah, this upcoming shoot is going to be kind of silly.  I like dark and I like silly sometimes--not always, but sometimes--but it's good to do different kinds of images and themes, right?  Right.  The stuff coming up in May is dark (BDSM always has some darkness to it, needless to say) but it's pretty ridiculous and it tells a story, comic book-style.  Earlier this year, I was looking at some old, vintage bondage magazines at a dungeon party while waiting for my slave to get dressed (I had tortured him for a good couple of hours, it was getting late, and it was time to head home) and I stumbled across a section in this magazine where they did comic captions overlayed on the photos themselves.  The story that they were telling was about a thief who broke into a home, was caught by the owner, and the thief ends up being bound and spanked (because of course he does, naturally).  The text on the pictures narrated the story in a way that was hot and really kind of hilarious.

Which gave me an idea to do a similar kind of thing--not the thief story though, something totally different--for one of my photo shoots.

I've never done anything like this before with my photos but I thought that an overall narrated/comic concept would be completely unusual and really interesting to try out.  So I came up with a kinky sci-fi kind of story that we'll be telling through our upcoming photographs that I'll be posting up here next month.  It will be kind of awesome and stupid (both!).  I don't want to give too many spoilers away about what happens in the story--any excuse to play some kind of evil overlord, I'm more than happy to go for it--but I think that it's a great theme and a fun fantasy to explore.  I've had some friends help out with the overall idea and I have an illustrator buddy here in Chicago who's helping design some of the masks and props. The submissive model that I'll be dominating in these photos is a really nice guy and a great sport so I'm confident that he'll "get" the concept behind what this project entails and have a good time with it.  Getting all the gear and props taken care of for the Spring 2016 Gallery is already proving to be kind of expensive and a pain in the ass but I think that it will be worth it.  So, yes, there is a team of collaborators involved (thanks guys!) and lots of bells and whistles to it.  It's one of those kinds of projects.

The Spring 2016 pics are going to be.......out of this world.

Tuesday, April 5, 2016

keep and toss


Yes, some stuff stays up here on this blog while other posts disappear.  I've done things this way for years.

So how do I decide what to keep and what to delete?

I keep the good posts, essays, "Yes, Master" entries, and Short Spanks (quick, short writings).  The pictures that I like after they've withstood some time but are still looking like me and how I present myself, I'll keep those too.  If I think that content on here--even if it's a bit "old"--is still relevant to me, and to those of you who come to this blog, then I'll keep it.

But a little over half of what's posted on this blog eventually gets scrapped.

Why?

I like to post notices regarding BDSM events (mainly in Chicago but not always) that I think that you people could be interested in.  Once those events are done, and that date has passed, I'll eventually pull them off this blog within a couple of months and get rid of those events posts.

I get rid of older pictures that I think are lame or aren't where I'm at right now, either stylistically or physically.  Sometimes I pass over old pictures of me on this blog and I'll think "eh, yuck, no" and I'll get rid of them.  I'm looking my best now (thank you, God!) so I get rid of old photos that I think are outdated or just turn me off for some reason.  Newer, better pictures often replace some of the older material.  That's going to continue.  But I'll still keep some of the old favorites that I think are fun and look right.  Even though my hair is longer now than it's been in a while, I still like some of those old, shaved-head pics from a few years back so, therefore, I won't get rid of them.  Those photos represent a tone, a certain flavor of attitude, that's still very much me so I don't want to delete them.

Like everyone else, I evolve and change my opinion sometimes.  If I think that one of my old essays doesn't line up to what my thinking is currently, then I'll get rid of those old postings.  Not because I'm embarrassed by anything that I said in them--it's not that; I'm usually very, very careful in how I jot down my thoughts and how they correlate to what my personal experiences have been with BDSM--but because some of the old content isn't where I'm at anymore.  That being said, I don't have the time to go over everything with a fine-toothed comb, but, overall, if my opinion is drastically different now on some subject than it was back then when I wrote it, I'll get rid of it.

I do my best to only keep the content on here, on this blog, that continues to be--in general--relevant to how I do things now, what I look like now, where my thoughts are currently, and what kind of fetish events are going on at the moment.

Wednesday, March 30, 2016

Yes, Master (entry 140): Dungeon Roller Coaster


Launched in 2009 as a regular column for Washington D.C.'s The New Gay website, "Yes, Master" is a series of essays, Q&A's, and rants by Chicago pro Dom, Master Aiden.  The new entries of "Yes, Master" continue here on MasterAiden.blogspot.com.  Feel free to write in, ask questions, etc.:  Master-Aiden@hotmail.com
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I'm like every other Dominant in the sense that I take people on a journey.

When people engage in BDSM--whether they're a Dom, a submissive, or a switch--they go on a trip:

Up, down, and up again, over high hills, around sharp turns, into dark tunnels, and back to full light.  There are high points, low points, favorite moments, bizarre sections, and instances that aren't necessarily the best segment of the escapade (but interesting nonetheless and a part of the excursion in order to get from point A to point Z).

There are thrilling moments, nerve-wracking moments, and moments that require patience.

This is just the reality of every amusement park ride and every amusing hour spent doing kink.

That's just the way it is, that's how it goes.


Unlike a ride at the carnival, you can never fully duplicate one fetish experience from another.  Sure, you can revisit your favorite crests and falls but there will be always be some new twists involved.  There will always be nuanced changes that are subtle or not-so-subtle.  Different jolts of pain, different degrees of pleasure.

The layout of the BDSM roller coaster is always changing when you're not looking.

You hop into the car, maybe expecting the same voyage, but you're lead to a different destination.  Or, perhaps, there are new features and altered tracks.

A submissive should never be 100% sure what they'll experience.....because, I admit, sometimes we Doms, typically, are not 100% sure how we want to map out your adventure.  There are days where it's best just to play it by ear and adjust things to the flavor of the atmosphere in the dungeon.  Micromanaging does work sometimes but, at other times, you just have to throw the plans out.  Different factors transform the chemistry.  Factors change:  confidence, aggression, raunch, desire, thirst for newness, shyness, need for adventure, physical comfort, a session that requires extra sensitivity, etc., etc., etc......

None of us are the same from day to day.  No S&M scene is going to be the same from one hour to the next.  Nothing can be copied, not exactly.



But that doesn't mean that we shouldn't love our favored go-to's.  We all have our kinks, fetishes, and magic buttons.  Everyone does.  That doesn't make you boring, it just makes you straightforward.


Similar to a fun-ride, I think that most people want to end their BDSM journey on a particular peak or exposed to a certain kind of view.  How you reach that point, however, will involve a constantly changing journey.  That could entail the cars on the roller coaster being painted a darker shade of blue (that you barely notice until you're up close to them), an entirely reconstructed ride, or the conductor has decided to take you spinning in a different section you've never traveled through until now.  Maybe he planned it out or maybe it was spur of the moment.  The submissives can't be sure, can they?


Everyone has favorite roller coasters that we constantly revisit but new additions and subtractions to the ride, here and there, should always be considered.

Monday, March 28, 2016

Idols


Nobody's perfect but there are those who come very close to it.














Wednesday, March 23, 2016

To you Peeps out there


I hope that all of you have a truly eggcellent Easter.

xo


Master Aiden

Friday, March 18, 2016

More


I'll continue doing the Galleries (with different people as submissives, lots of various gear/clothing/environments/concepts, etc., etc.) but I'm also going to start doing some Instagram-style Bonus Shots from time to time that don't require as much fuss as the Galleries typically do.

Galleries for the elaborate, high-concept shoots that sometimes involve a team of people, lots of customized gear, masks, and all the rest of it....but then I'll do Bonus Shots too, every once in a while, for more casual stuff.

Thursday, March 17, 2016

Shamrock Shake It


Whether you're a top o' the morning
or a bottom o' the night
I hope this Paddy's Day gives you
plenty of delight
(I just made that up.  You're welcome.)

Have a great, wild (but hopefully not too wild)

Happy St. Patrick's Day!

Tuesday, March 15, 2016

Yes, Master (entry 139): French, Twisted

Launched in 2009 as a regular column for Washington D.C.'s The New Gay website, "Yes, Master" is a series of essays, Q&A's, and rants by Chicago pro Dom, Master Aiden.  The new entries of "Yes, Master" continue here on MasterAiden.blogspot.com.  Feel free to write in, ask questions, etc.:  Master-Aiden@hotmail.com
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All pictures in this posting are the work of Pierre et Gilles.

I'm a huge fan of image-creators, Pierre et Gilles and, apparently, so are a lot of people.  For a couple of decades now, you've see their influence--if not their work, directly--imprinted on films, television, music videos, album covers, advertisements of all kinds, etc.  Even if you're not familiar with who they are, I'm certain that you've seen their work, whether you knew it or not, in some form or another via a picture credited to them or an image/scene done by one of their many copycats.


Simultaneously iconic and iconoclastic, this France-based duo began producing work in the 1970's.  Incorporating an unusual method that utilizes photography, painting, and (sometimes) 3-dimensional framing, Pierre Commoy and his creative partner Gilles Blanchard capture models, rock stars, fashion designers, and actors in customized fantasyscapes.  Often the artists transform their subjects into catholic saints, mythical gods, and allegorical figures while, at other times, they inflate their sitters into superpowered versions of who they already are.  Subtlety is typically not the forte of Pierre et Gilles.  It's always "Go big or go home".  Their straightforward, high-camp sensibility is often called "kitsch" but that ignores their clearly intentional senses of humor and irony that easily guide viewers towards quick lessons in pop culture and art history.  Deeply intelligent, sensitive, and sophisticated, the playful works of Pierre et Gilles are regarded as bright points in international contemporary art.


"GAY" doesn't scare Pierre et Gilles and it never has.  From the start, their work has been filled with swooning hunks and glamorous divas wandering through Crayola-colored forests, beautifully hazy torture dungeons, haunted mansions coated in diamond dust, enchanted Parisian streets, etc. and so on.  Always stunning and occasionally kinky,  Pierre et Gilles never apologize.  They create images for themselves; for their own entertainment and reflection.  They share their art with the world and the world responds favorably.


Some good examples of their work can be found HERE and a clip from a documentary about them is right HERE.  Pierre et Gilles are sort of mysterious these days (heavy-handed social media isn't their cup of tea) but I like to keep updated on them by visiting Gilles' Instagram account, hoping to catch a glimpse at whatever they're cooking up at the moment.

Wednesday, March 9, 2016

Short Spank: the right kind of chain


It's good to have different chains for different occasions and places.

Some chains (because of the thickness of their metal links) are right for some locks, and some carabiners, but then completely wrong for other locks and different carabiners.  Some chains are perfect for specific installations and shackles while other chains not so much.....  Which, if you're not ready for that kind of situation, can cause unwelcome surprises during some dungeon play scenes or if you're in a dungeon space (a play party somewhere that you're not used to going, a new dungeon in some different state or country, etc.) where you don't know about all the equipment quirks (and every dungeon has its own quirks......).

So, if you're the kind of Dom who enjoys bondage utilizing chains (like I do!), you know that metal chains are not necessarily one-size-fits-all.  Which is one of the advantages that ropes (typically) have over chains.  Chains can be heavy, loud, and a hassle to transport sometimes.  But I still love using them during scenes because they're quick, no-nonsense, and absolute.

The chains that tend to be the easiest to use are not the super-heavy, expensive ones.  Strangely (appropriately?) enough, the chains that tend to be the least amount of hassle and the most multipurpose are the cheap, bagged lengths that you find in the Pets section at stores.  They're lighter and have thin links that work well for most installations, locks, and carabiners.  I would recommend that all kinksters who engage in bondage play get a light, cheap length of chain for their gear bag (you never know when it could come in handy).  Scenes that involve real suspension would (obviously) require heavier chains than these and should only be done by people with a lot of experience.

Is this the most exciting BDSM subject ever discussed?  No.  But anticipating small, practical details like this sort of thing is extremely helpful when it comes to dealing with the realities of dungeon play.